(Closed) Too many YES rsvp’s and i’m annoyed!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I used to think that, but you also should understand that you did invite them lol. But it can be overwhelming and I do feel for ya! 😛 happy planing

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, I am getting that too…but I am doing my best to just let go.  Our guest list is pretty out of control.  We started out at 300, then invited about 350, then, after the invites went out, our list grew to about 375.  I am guessing that our list will be about 400 any day now!   And our RSVPs are due tomorrow!!!!!  Sorry, I just went off on my own little rant here! 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

then why did you invite them?!?!?!

….

that’s YOUR bad

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Uh if you havn’t seen them in 20 years then why did you invite them? You should be honored that so many people want to come! Unless you just invited them for the presents….

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Agree with the others. You dont really have room to be annoyed…. you invited them.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hey, I am kinda in the same boat, I hear you. Yesyes, we invited them. But thing is, I agreed to invite a bunch of my extended family vaguely hoping they wouldn’t come. I know, I know. And no, they won’t be sending presents when they don’t come (different culture, different expectations). And I am sure meeksy didn’t invite them for the presents, either.

If they are reunioning, at least they will all hang out together and not demand too much of your attention 🙂 Enjoy, and know you made your parents happy. Also, it’s quite the compliment that they find you (and/or your family) important enough to come to your wedding after not seeing you for 20 years.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you should have stood your ground when family members were pressuring you to invite them — because that’s exactly what happens when you invite each and every extended family member — a big, fat family reunion. I hope your family is footing the bill for all those extra people! I’m sorry you have to deal with this, because you’re probably worried the day is going to turn into nothing more than a family function, rather than being YOUR day. But, I think it will turn out okay. Try to think of it as that much more people celebrating your new life together. And hey, more presents, right?! haha 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i know a lot of people invite a bunch of extended family because they dont want to exclude anyone and really there is a percentage of no’s that are generally expected.

 

that being said, we’re only inviting people who we know are already coming & that we want there. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

They’re coming for the same reason that your family insisted on inviting them – it’s considered polite.

It IS like a family reunion.  Weddings, baptisms and the like tend to be the times that families gather together to celebrate.  That’s why mom thinks it’s rude to not invite your second cousin twice removed, and why your second cousin twice removed thinks it’s rude not to attend.    These events don’t happen all the time.

If you didn’t want the “family reunion” vibe, you shoouldn’t have invited them.  Plain and simple.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was actually sad when I got a lot of no’s.  I would have gladly traded places with you and had too many people than have had the people that I thought were coming not come.  That being said,  the day was perfect and I didn’t really notice who wasn’t there just like you probably won’t notice all the people that are.  They will be there to love you so enjoy it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think most brides get more NOs than expected, and are sad because of it.  If I was in your place, I’d feel lucky and honored!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think weddings are like family reunions heck that when i get to see all my family at one time. but i agree with the bees you did invite them =/

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Whatever OP clearly got pressured into inviting these people by the family, who probably said “oh So-and-So won’t come anyway” – give her a break.

I’d be a little annoyed too – if I was paying. If you’re not paying then who cares really? Unless you invited over your max capacity for the venue in which case then that really IS your fault.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well we stood our ground, and have told our parents that we are keeping the wedding small. Mind you in our families, that means keeping it under 150 people.  If it were up to our parents, we would be inviting an easy 300 people.  Our rule was:

Unless they live out of state, we need to have eaten at least one meal with them in the past year. 

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