Post # 1
So, our wedding isn’t for at least a year…almost a year now. When we first got engaged, I got super duper excited and was doing lots of planning and managed to get a lot figured out (location, colors, BM dresses, my dress). Then, I went through some challenging other unrelated stuff, and got derailed from the wedding planning.
I’m currently in between jobs right now (in the process of recovering from the last one, and getting mentally ready to start the new one), and have been getting back into wedding stuff. My MOH has been super helpful in talking with me about different things to think about, and I feel like I’ve been going into super planning mode again. I’m personally enjoying it…it’s helping me get excited again, and I’m having lots of fun figuring out stuff. The thing is, whenever I try and talk with my fiance about stuff, he sort of gives me funny looks, and I think he’s thinking I’m doing too much planning too early.
I am definitely a planner, which may be why I’m getting so much enjoyment out of doing all of this. But, should I be slowing down and not be thinking about all of this so early? I dont know….I don’t want to burn myself out, and at the same time, I’m enjoying having some positive things to focus on again, especially having such a blah ending to my last job.
Anywho, any words of wisdom would be so greatly apprecated. 🙂
Post # 3
Take it from this girl, who is 16 days out from the wedding: there is no such thing as too early! I’ve been working steadily on wedding details, 4-5 nights a week since July, but it’s paying off because my to-do list is not too horrifying right now.
In the coming year, your desire to plan is going to come and go, so I’d take advantage of the times you feel like getting stuff done!
Post # 4
I can’t relax if there’s something to be planned but at the same time I’m not putting pressure on myself. For me, I’m ahead in planning (according to weddingwire’s timeline) but I’m spreading it out and appreciating the time gaps in between. It’s just the suggested timeline shifted 3 mo ahead for me 🙂
Post # 5
I say the sooner you can get stuff done the better, especially if you have the time now.
Post # 6
Get it done early! You will burn out, but then it will be okay not to plan because things will be done.
Post # 7
get it done early… i swear it was one of the best things we ever did.. I had the last two weeks before my wedding NOT running around, it was all taken care of. I had the week off before the wedding and my Hubs had 3 days off before hand because he thought he might need to help. we had a fabulous 3 days hanging out together and doing odd errands. It helped us be less nervous and family less nervous also.
And that way a year out, you can always put a break on it when you feel a little tired and theres no pressure 🙂
Post # 8
I think if you’re confident in your choices, that your tastes won’t shift too far between here and there, then go for it! Men never understand!
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your feedback and validation!!! It really helps me feel better about the planning now…and, yeah I don’t know what my future will look like, so I think taking advantage of the time I have is a good idea.
Thanks everyone 🙂
Post # 10
I think that’s totally normal. Its also normal for you FI to not understand. I wouldn’t stress a thing. I do think that eventually you’ll reach a point where you might want to pump the breaks a bit. And that’s fine too. I’d go from one spectrum to the other. From being so happy to plan the details to not even wanting to look at someone else’s wedding let alone plan mine. It ebbs and flows. But no matter what, the end result will be a beautiful wedding.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
We started planning early. I was doing mock ups over a year out. I don’t think it hurts to work on ideas early, just be sure it’s what you really want before making any big purchases. Definitely take advantage of the time you have now, and if you feel a burn out coming on just take a break. I’ve had a couple weeks long breaks just so I wouldn’t burn out.