Post # 1
i think i have a problem. all i think about is wedding. dreses, caterers, photographers, limousines, churches, favors, younameit. all i search for on the internet is weddings. when i go out with friends, i hope they wont ask me about the wedding bc once i start talking about it, i can’t stop. in fact, i think they went out the other night without me so they wouldn’t have to hear it!!!
my big day isn’t for like nine more months. this cant go on. what do you guys do to reduce your compulsion to plan and plan and talk about planning and plan to talk about planning?? seriously, i need help.
Post # 3
Haha. Don’t worry since we book our venue in April that is all I do also. I have had so many wedding related dreams about paper and just the craziest things. It is an exciting time I don’t think anyone really faults you for having your wedding on the brain.
I think what helps me is blogging. It helps to kind of “log” my ideas, but at the same time it helps me share my ideas so I don’t make everyone else crazy about hearing them. The only person I am very lax with the wedding talk with is my mom, but I think I’ll have to cool it with her for a while too just in case. Haha
Post # 4
Oh yeah…I used to have a whole bunch of fun social gossip-y sites to kill time at work with, but over the last few weeks, I don’t even want to look at them, all I want to look at are wedding sites!!! I will even talk about it with clients [most of whom know I’m getting marrieed, so I’m not totally inappropriate!] I have to check myself every so often…but we’re getting married in 36 days, sooooo…I’m starting to feel the pressure, and talking about it helps vent some of it!!!
Post # 5
I know I have driven people crazy with wedding talk, so I now try to restrain myself and make a point of asking people about their own lives. I also am careful around single friends. My FI rolls his eyes whenever I bring up the wedding, and our house is a library of wedding magazines. I used to work with a girl that was also planning hers… now I get my fix on the weddingbee! It’s nice to talk to other women going through the same thing and as excited as I am.
Post # 6
It’s driving me nuts too. But then I figure, heck, I get to do this once in my life. I’m going to enjoy this obssessing and constant wedding talk/thinking for a while. I’ll never get to do it again!
Post # 7
OMG!! YES..it’s horrible, I dream about it multiple times per week, I can’t stop thinking about it, I carry swatches and pictures and napkins around in my purse..it’s horrible. It’s gettin to the point where it’s almost not even enjoyable anymore, it’s just work. A lot of work, and it’s frustrating and exhausting. I’m at a low point in it where there are TOO many decisions to be made and not enough brain left to research and compare anymore, but then I’ve spent SO much time, I also don’t want to settle, it’s driving me nuts!
Whew..ok, I feel a little better now..sorry for that, lol.
Goodness gracious..I need help, lol.
Post # 8
This happens to me too.. I’ll be listening to my iPod and every song I can picture at our reception … I pass a flower and wonder what it would look like as a bouquet … everything gets wedding related.
I agree that blogging has helped keep all my thoughts organized. Also, using these boards have been a great outlet!
After awhile, I get SICK of talking about wedding stuff now lol
Post # 9
I have to be extra careful because all of my friends are single and they just do not want to chat about weddings. It is hard, because it’s such a major thing in your life and takes a lot of time, effort, and focus.
I’m with Miss Hot Sauce though on talking to Mom. I’m the first one to get married and my mom ALWAYS wants to talk weddings ;o)
Post # 10
Oddly my mom doesn’t really care too much about the wedding. She is happy that my FI and I are in love and ready to take the next step but she’s never been one to fixate on me getting married as the “happiest day” in my life. She was much more excited planning and thinking about my college graduation party!!!
Post # 11
I ditto the blog idea! Our wedding website is at mywedding.com, and we chose that one specifically because it had a blog feature. It’s our way of keeping ourselves organized, but also, putting our plans out there so if people want to know, they check the blog!
I’ve found it helps because our immediate family members read it a lot and post comments and such, so when we get together, I don’t feel like I even need to talk about it.
But in all honesty, the wedding is a big thing in your life. It’s natural to want to think about it all the time. I always told myself I wouldn’t become one of “those” brides, but I definitely have. And it has a lot to do with the fact that this is really one time in your life when you have a really good excuse to throw the party of a lifetime. Not only that, marriage in and of itself is a big step that should be celebrated!
I say, don’t worry about how much you think about it. If you find yourselves babbling with your friends, and they look bored, just say, “Oh gosh, I’m rambling again. I’m sorry, I don’t mean to, it’s just an exciting time in life. Anyway …” and then change the subject.
Post # 12
@hotchildinthecity i second everything you said…
Post # 13
My friends have been great so far but I only have been planning for a month so I am not sure how long they will be able to take it!!!!!!
Luckily I am the only girl in family so my mom is super pumped and my FMIL doesn’t have any daughters and her other son’s wedding is in New Zealand so she wasn’t very involved in the planning and so they LOVE hearing me talk about it and I don’t think that will stop!!
But what I don’t like is that wedding unrelated things don’t excite me that much as they used too and I only search wedding stuff and have given up most of my other procrastinating sites!
Post # 14
@worldtrekkerbride: My mom is the same way! But I think I must have picked it up from her, because I don’t really like to talk about the wedding with people myself! Most of my friends need to pry information out of me and my fiance. I think its because I kind of want to keep as much as possible a surprise.
I love coming here to talk about things because I know everyone here understands and is receptive. But I just can’t bring myself to talk much to my friends and family about it.