Too old for flower girl????

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

trayeaton:  If I were going to be her stepmom and I wanted to give her a role, I would ask her what her preference is. Have you spoken to her about her preference? She could be a junior bridesmaid. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Make her a bridesmaid, too.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would make her a junior bridesmaid…similar color dress but more age appropriate. My niece is 11, 5’10 and 250lbs…I understand what you mean by she looks too old. I would just want her to feel included. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Just make her a junior bridesmaid, tell her you were considering whether she should be a flower girl or bridesmaid since she is kind of in between the ages. I think it might make her feel bad if her sister is a bridesmaid and she just carries a photo and isn’t actually in the wedding party just because her age falls in between bridesmaid and flower girl. If you are including one you should include both girls.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

definitely a junior bridesmaid. I have never seen a flower girl who is 5’6! 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

trayeaton:  You can make her a junior bridesmaid, but I doubt she’ll fit in a dress designed for a junior bridesmaid’s.

My daughter just went through that, with her husband’s 12 year old niece. She chose a bridesmaid’s gown that had a matching junior bridesmaid style, but it ended up that it only fit up to 5’2 tall (including heels).  The niece was taller than 3 of the 4 other bridesmaids. Luckily they had her age in mind when they chose the gown and it was one shoulder and covered more of the chest area, than the average bridesmaid gown.

Her flowergirl was 9, by the way, and a perfect size 10 girls gown (slender).

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I will be having a 12 yr old jr bridesmaid (my cousin) and jr. Groomsman (fiancés brother) … To seperate then but still make then feel grown up  she will be wearimg the same dress most likely but with straps (if not similar dress thats more app) and instead of a traditional bouquet she will have a pomenade ( i thinks thats what they call them but, those hanging flower balls )

 

i would not not make the 17 yr old a flower girl unless you want a pissed off teenager …. You say jr bridesmaids are to small and your current dresses are to mature is there a way to alter or add a cover up to them for the 10 yr old or maybe pick a complimenting bridesmaid dress for her that is more conservative  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You cannot make them flower girls… those poor girls will be so embarrassed. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

We made my younger sister a junior bridesmaid. She walked by herself with a basket floral arrangement and stood next to my other bridesmaids for the ceremony. It worked out really well, since she said she felt too old to be a flower girl again. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

My daughter will be 9 when I get married. I don’t want a flower girl. I am going to have her walk down with a sign saying here comes your bride and also incorporate her into the unity candle ceremony. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

trayeaton:   <br />I think most 10 year olds and all 17 year olds would rather curl up in a ball than be  flower girl. There is no law that says that a junior bridesmaid has to wear the same dress or the younger version of the same dress. I am quite sure you can find a dress that will fit her and coordinate with the bridesmaids dresses.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

trayeaton:  They can be jr. bridesmaids without having a dress that a store sells as a jr. bridesmaid dress.

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