Post # 1
Background: FI has 3 nieces who he (and now I) is pretty close to. The thing is they will range in age from 12-20 on our wedding day. I don’t feel right having them as either bridesmaids or flower girls (we are having a very small wedding party, my BM are all people I’ve known 10+ years). FI’s sisters are significantly older than him and had kids young, so he’s always kind of been more of a older brother than uncle to the girls.
We were thinking of having his sisters do readings at the mass, but are there any ideas for jobs we can have the girls do aside from hand out programs that would make them feel special? Thanks!
Post # 3
@lizzypoo96: If you have a small wedding party anyway, it may be simpler and better to give them no special role at all, other than honoured guests who will be in the family photos. At that age, I would have prefered that when I was that age (and similar for my daughters who are that age now).
p.s. I agree that readings are good roles for FI’s sisters.
Post # 4
Readings, gifts, junior bridesmaid, or maybe even usherettes?
Post # 5
My niece was 14 when I got married and she was my junior BM. It worked out slick. My DH has a nephew who was 16 at the time and he was a jr groomsmen.
Post # 6
They can be junior bridesmaids..
Or..you don’t have to make them walk down the aisle before you…and stand right next to you during the ceremony (because you said that your wedding is going to be small…and thre is no need for having too many people at the altar)…they can sit with the family..But you can get them dresses matching with the bridal party dresses…this way they can participate in the picture-taking after the ceremony and fit right in..
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat. FI has a niece that is 9, will be almost 10 when we get married. I didn’t make her anything.
Post # 8
@lizzypoo96: I have been a Junior Bridesmaid before. There was 2 of us and we were totally fine with the title.
Post # 9
@lizzypoo96: they could be junior bridesmaids? I’m running into the same issue with my nieces-to-be. I don’t know about you, but my nieces are too spoiled to not be in the wedding 😉
Post # 10
Junior bridesmaid is fine for a 12-16 year old or so, but at 20 I’d be miffed if I were named a junior anything. It depends on how close you are to them. Nobody says they have to be part of the bridal party at all.
Post # 11
I have the same situation (Im 24 and my nieces/nephews are 15, 15, 14, 12, 10).
The older ones are being my ushers greeting everyone at the church and handing out the order of service. My 10yo niece im very close to and she is my junior bridesmaid. I think she would have been devastated if I didnt ask her though!
Post # 12
@lizzypoo96: We had a similar situation, but with OH’s cousins, who will be aged 11, 16, and 18.
We’re having the 11 year old as a junior bridesmaid, and that’s it. The 16 and 18 year old would really not be interested in being given a special job/being a bridesmaid, plus I already have 4 adult bridesmaids (and it’s a small wedding).
Post # 13
My daughter will be almost 12 when I get married, she’s going to be my BM.
All depends on the relationship and the size of your wedding.