Post # 1
My fiance’s 9 year old neice will be 10 years old by the time we get married next August. I had it in my mind leading up to the decision that she would be a flower girl, but then my FI was having a hard time accepting my 3 bridesmaids to his 4 groomsmen so I said ok let’s make your neice a jr bridesmaid. Now I am wondering if she is too young to be a jr bridesmaid…I had thought well maybe it would work out because 10 seemed too old to be a flower girl but now I just confused…she just wants to be involved in the wedding she doesn’t care either way…aah anyone have any advice on what to do? I need some outside opinions…thanks!
Post # 3
I don’t think so. I was 10 years old and a junior bridesmaid in my uncle’s wedding many years ago. I had so much fun being in the wedding.
Oddly enough, my DH has two 10 year old cousins (11 later this year) and I felt they were too old to be flower girls. We had them as wedding helpers.
Post # 4
Nah I dont’ think she’s too young for that. Sounds like a perfect solution! She doesn’t have to wear the same Bm dress as the other girls either, you can get something for her that coordinates that is more age appropriate.
Post # 5
I don’t understand the Jr. Bridesmaids thing.
Post # 6
Jr. Bridesmaid is a dubious title created for girls that are too old to be flower girls and too young to be bridesmaids..they’re in limbo and in your wedding, it’s just what happens
Post # 7
At 10 my aunt had me as a flower bridesmaid lol She felt it was that kind of awkward age too so she had me get a cute little dress and carry a basket with flowers that matched the bridesmaid flowers. I loved it so it may be a good idea for you.
Post # 8
We had a 9 year old usher in our wedding and it worked well for us. I say do whatever you think will work.
Post # 9
The good thing about wedding’s is that you can do whatever you want! My SO’s daugther will be 8 by the time we get married next year and she will be my one and only bridesmaid.
Post # 10
my niece is 8 and she’ll be a junior bridesmaid
Post # 11
Thanks for all of your advice/responses! All of of the BM’s will have the same dress but in a different style…they’re the J Crew dresses. Since she’s so small we are ordering a petite size 00 and her grandma is a rockstar seamstress so will alter it to fit her..that’s the hope! So she will still “match” the other BM’s but has an age appropriate style. I guess my only dilema (if you can even call it that…just thoughts that I had) is that she won’t be involved in the bach party clearly and is obviouslt not involved in planning or the other fun things that my BM’s will be involved with for the wedding. She is getting her hair and make up done with all of us for the wedding etc which she is super excited about!
Would it be wrong to want to have some pictures with just my girl friends (BM’s) and some with all…I guess I just never envisioned having a “Jr BM” so it is hard for me to imagine how it is all going to pan out…I am probably just over thinking it haha My FI’s youngest brother will be 16 and his groomsmen so she will be walking with him so I figured that would be a good match up and work out well.
Post # 12
Just have her as a bridesmaid. I think it’s too old to be a flower girl too. Invite her to your bridal shower but not the bachelorette party. No biggie!
Post # 13
I think it’s fine. 10 is a bit old for a flower girl in my opinion. The only concern would be getting a dress that’s age-appropriate, and it sounds like that won’t be a problem.
The one time I was a jr. bridesmaid I did not have an age-appropriate dress. I was in my cousin’s wedding at 15 and was designated as a junior bridesmaid along with her two younger sisters, who were about 10 and 11 and still pre-pubescent. I on the other hand had quite a “womanly” figure! The regular bridesmaids were only a few years older than me and were wearing a dress that looked appropriate on an older teenager/young woman, while I was wearing this thing with a very high, prim neckline and sleeves that puffed at the top. I felt silly but it was okay; you do things like that for family.
Post # 14
I’d have her be a Jr. Bridesmaid
Post # 15
I’m having a 12-year-old junior bridesmaid. She and her mom were involved in planning the shower, but they didn’t come to the bachelorette party. I don’t really expect them to help with any wedding projects, either…her only job is to show up and look pretty! My BMs got different Bill Levkoff dresses in the same color, so she was able to pick one out that was age- and body-appropriate for her.
And I think it’s fine for you to have a few pictures with just your older BMs, but don’t totally exclude your junior BM. (Unless she wants to be excluded…mine is going through a stage where she’s SUPER camera-shy!)
Post # 16
I think it’s fine to have some photos with just the BM’s and not include the junior. The last wedding I was in had an 11 year old jr BM and in the photos she was grouped with the flowergirl. We had photos of the whole wedding party, some just with groomsmen and bridesmaids, and some with both BM’s and the junior and flower girl. It’s a good mix and I don’t think she ever felt left out, just knew that some photos were just of the grownups.