Post # 1
OK. fellow bees, I need your opinion. I found a dress that is more perfectly suited for my body. I love how it looks on me and I love how I feel in it. The thing is, my future sis in law wore the exact same dress at her wedding two years ago! But then I found Maggie Sottero’s Autumn. Different designer, material and some slight differences in details like a corset back. But is it too similar to my FSIL’s gown? Would it be too tacky to wear the dress even though its not technically the same? How would you feel if you were my FSIL?
Post # 3
I honostly don’t think alot of people will notice. Of course your FSIL will, but I am sure she will be flattered. It could be something you guys can bond over.
But none of that really matters, as long as you feel it is the perfect dress for you. I say go for it.
Post # 4
mmmm… ok…. i dont want to sound harsh so let do this slow… i know it has been 2 years but people have pic of her wedding and someone will notice… i think you should look for the same silhouette but something that doesnt look soooo close to her dress. but if you reallyyyyyy are in love with that dress… do it… its your wedding after all.
Post # 5
Hmm.. I could see how some women could get upset over this. Personally i wouldn’t care! I think it just depends on what your FSIL is like. In the end though that’s your dream dress, and she couldn’t possibly hold a grudge for very long!
Post # 6
I think it depends on your FSIL. I wouldnt really want anything so close, but if its what you want and she doesnt mind then go for it. Do you think you could ask her? I really dont know if it would bother her, it depends on her personality. I think it would really annoy some people while others wouldnt care. To be perfectly honest I would find it a little strange if my FSIL in law wanted practically the same dress just because there are so many different dresses to choose from.
Post # 7
They are pretty similar, I went through the same thing. Out of my top 2 choices, one was very similar to my FSIL and her wedding was this year, so it would be within one year of mine, I figured it was too close in time. If you love it, I would bring it up to her (FSIL), but personally I decided to go with the other dress so it wouldn’t be too much of the same since I did want my dress to be different.
Post # 8
The dresses are very similar, but isn’t imitation the sincerest form of flattery? If I were you FSIL I would be flattered that you liked the style of my dress enough to purchase a similar one. Also, if you love the dress and the fit you should go for it. You can make the dress your own with accessories.
Post # 9
Actually, when you think of it, there aren’t a lot of non-strapless gowns out there. I tell the salespeople what I’m looking for – non-strapless, A-line, V-neck, no beads (not a big fan of beads) and they always bring up the Casablanca dress (the one my FSIL wore). I looked and looked high and low for a simple, yet elegant, non-strapless gown with all of my preferences–nothing out there. They tell me that the Casablanca gown is pretty much the only non-strapless gown close to those features I’m looking for. I’ve seen Pronovias gowns with similar sillouhettes but they are way out of my price range. When I saw the Maggie gown, it was perfect. The Casablanca gown had a little beads on the bodice and is taffeta. The Maggie gown is satin, no beads and has a corset. It’s like an upgraded version of the Casablanca gown.
But I don’t know, I suppose brides get really territorial over gowns (even when there are hundreds of other women who have probably worn that same gown). I honestly did not remember my FSIL’s gown when I first tried on the Casablanca gown (I attended the wedding two years ago). It wasn’t until I saw a photo of my FSIL’s wedding did it occur to me that it might be the same dress. My wedding is in August so it will be three years after my FSIL’s wedding. Her sister tells me I should be fine. I think I will just run it past her and see what she thinks.
Post # 10
They are VERY similar… honestly I think weddings are a touchy subject when it comes to this type of thing, some people get really annoyed/offended by certain things, and this could be one of them, I’m not sure how your FSIL is, but I might be weirded out by it, they’re just very similar… sorry if that’s not what you want to hear, personally I’d want my dress to be something different than what someone else I knew had, but if you really love this dress, I’d fish around and talk to her to figure out if you think she would mind… it might be hard to know if she’s being truthful or not, but at least you tried, rather than just buying a dress similar to hers, and then her noticing it on her own. Hope this helps… good luck with what you decide!
Post # 11
BTW, I’m not dying to wear the gown because my FSIL wore something similar to it. I never even had a great look at my FSIL’s gown because she only wore it for the ceremony (she told me she wore another reception gown). I love the Maggie gown because it it completely fits everything I was looking for in a gown. It sucks that there’s hardly any other variations out there on the non-strapless gown I’m looking for. Looks like I’ll just have to settle for something else.
Post # 12
I would just get the dress you want. It’ll be 3 years. It should be fine!
BTW I had similar requirements to you and ended up getting the totally awesome Augusta Jones Anya, but if I had found this David’s Bridal dress earlier I would’ve bought it
You have to order it online but it’s so cheap that I would just order it and see if it works. You can return without alterations. I do love my dress but it was a lot of money. In fact, I’m going to have to sell it after my February wedding: http://classifieds.weddingbee.com/topic/augusta-jones-anya-size-1210-available-after-220-perfect-for-busty-bees
Post # 13
Honestly it almost looks like the same dress. I would maybe consider something else.
Post # 14
I agree that it is hard to find a dress that looks different when you don’t want beads, strapless and simple. I say do it. I tried on the Casablanca and I like the Maggie better AND I think it looks different in the back especially.
I found these three that are different yet similar (with a little beading)
Post # 15
I personally think it doesn’t matter. But I’m not a super touchy bride. It would only make me angry if someone wore the same dress before me, not after…especially not 2 years after…
Post # 16
I’m not touchy at all but I would be a little sad if my FSIL wanted to wear practically the same dress however, there is no problem with you asking her if she would mind. But be prepared to respect her decision.