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    bimba    May 28, 2010   Boston, MA

    so bees... i need to know if little boxes of chocolate as favors are too tacky...

    my mother in law's fiancee's sister offered to make homemade chocolate as favors for our wedding, and i think it is great since it is free!!! BUT, my lovely italian mother is driving me crazy because in italy we dont give out any kind of candies as a gift during the wedding, but little gifts (called BOMBONIERE) that actually can be expensive, like silver frames, decorative porcelain stuff etc... she doesnt understand that we can afford anything like that even if it was $1 a piece, especially after spending so much money for the invitations OUCH!!! and then she remindes me that my cousin, who is getting married a month after me,as a good respectful italian girl, is doing it!!!! well i dont know what to think!!! i dont think anyone would care but my mother... and then i tried the chocolate and it is really good!

    what did u guys think and what did you do/are you doing for favors???

     
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    Hahaha, this is funny to me bc there's been many a thread here on the boards about how almost anything other than edible favors can be considered "tacky" or is just not as appreciated...I think homemade chocolate candies as favors sounds like an AWESOME plan, way better than a picture frame or something...Maybe find some examples of weddings using candy as a favor (show her some beautiful pics of Amy Atlas displays) and she'll come around? 

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i'd actually much rather get chocolate!

     
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    Frugal Bride    July 17, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    Mmm chocolate. Can't go wrong! 

     
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    Selene221    October 31, 2012  

    Edibles are better than non-edibles any day. But really, favors are never required and people will not miss them if they are not there. In fact, I've also seen edibles get left behind. If your mother wants to spend her own money on something that will automatically get left behind and/or thrown in the trash, that's her perogative but she has no right to make you feel guilty for not going that route.

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    This is what we're planning on, so I'm really really hoping no one thinks it's super tacky!  Please, bees?  Don't make me go back to the drawing board on this one!  ;)

     
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    BrooklynBride10    October 9, 2010   nyc

    Since when is chocolate tacky?  I love chocolate!

     
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    hazel920    July 3, 2011   happy engagement land

    Not at all.  I like chocolate favors, too....instead of stuff you'll never use (candles, frames, etc.)

    Is mom willing to buy the favors?  If so...perhaps she can spend her money on whatever she suggests as favors that a "proper Italian girl" should have.

    For our favors, we're putting a little card in each chair that says:

    In lieu of favors, we donated to __ charity in your name.
    However, we don't want our guests to go home empty handed.
    An unlimited "sweet table" (European desserts) will be provided after dinner.
    Please feel free to eat some (or a lot) and take some (or a lot) home.
    Take home boxes will be available at the sweet table.
    Enjoy and thank you for being a part of our wedding day!

     
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    snmcdowell    9-13-08   Chicago

    It's not tacky at all to do chocolates! But your mom is coming from a different reference point. She may be feeling sad that your wedding won't be as traditional as she imagined. It's normal to grieve the losses that come from living in another country. Maybe you could appease her by referencing that tradition somehow. Like, maybe do one bomboniere per table and have it be the prize for the longest married couple or the guest who travelled the farthest at that table. You could tie a little note to it explaining that bomboniere's are a traditional Italian favor and that you are happy to share this small tradition with them.

    Or if you are doing other things that are traditional in Italian weddings, maybe you could make a note of them in your program. Like, "X and Y are traditions at Italian weddings. The X we are using belonged to the bride's mother and was used at her wedding in Rome."

     
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    noodlefish    November 27, 2010  

    Chocolate is not tacky! It's delicious! :)

    Maybe to compromise, try and find a good deal on containers to put the chocolate in that would appease your mother.. then people could take home cute tins or wooden boxes or something they could reuse? I don't know. Chocolate just seems fine to me... but that could just be my perpetual sweet tooth talking ;) 

     

    @hazel920 I like your charity donation/European dessert favor!

     
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    fancygirl       NYC

    OK, coming from an Italian background I can understand where your mother's coming from but I agree with everyone else - I think the chocolate is a great idea!  I think that if doing favors, edible is the way to go - who wants another random tchotke lying around the house?  Team chocolate!  :)

     
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    Miss Biner    November 5, 2011  

    If chocolate is tacky, then I'm the queen of England!

    I think that if you can keep your bridesmaids out of these: http://static.blogo.it/clickblog/TackyWeddings.jpg you'll be fine.

     
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    EFRAU    October 30, 2010   West Covina, CA

    Not tack! And usually homemade turns out do yummy! Just get a cute box, they are not pricey at all.

     

    I'm doing stemless wineglasses! Found them for $1,19 and mexican wedding cookies in a small clear bag

     
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    Mrs2theDr    April 16, 2010   Chicago, IL

    No tacky at all...if mom is willing to foot the bill for fancy favors, by all means:-)

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    No way is it tacky - and since when is giving out candy "tacky" at an Italian wedding? All of my italian cousins did it. And, um... Jordan Almonds? They're a huge Italian tradition - that's candy isn't it?

     
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    bimba    May 28, 2010   Boston, MA

    @Dancy905--yeah those are called confetti, but usually they are followed by a "gift"! i thought to get those, so it would kinda make my mom happy, but my fiancee hates almonds and he has no idea what the hell they are...so failed

    @noodlefish--thought about that too, but i think it is going to be over budget...

    @snmcdowell--thought about that, but i dont want to feel akward and feel my guest akward at the table with just 1 gift, you know...

    @Miss BImer--lol where did u find that pic??? looks like an italian bridal party back in the '70s HAHAHA

     

    and NO! my mom is not paying for anything, she is paying fo my dress only... unfortunately my parents are broke big time, so the wedding is on us, but i know she wants me to have  the best wedding ever and she is pretty adamant about her italian traditions and trust me u dont want to mess up with this sicilian woman!

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    I would love to eat your wedding favors!!!

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    I would love to get chocolate! I have been to weddings and I get home with the favor and am like, what am I going to do with this?!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    Go with chocolate or no favour at all! All of those other favours just go to waste and it obviously doesn't fit in the budget!

     
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    Okay, soooo I know you don't WANT to do it... but seriously, I ran into a box of little silver frames for place settings at michaels this weekend, so maybe you could run by there and see what they have for you to use? I think if you don't want to cross your mom you have to figure out something!

     
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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    i love the idea... chocolate is a great favor... as for the word tacky, there will always be people who will find something in your wedding tacky. its is impossible to make everybody happy so just concentrate on making yourself and your FI happy!!

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    Not tacky at all!!!  We didnt do homemade chocolates, but we did chocolates in the shape of shells to go with our theme.  I dont think anyone left them behind!

     
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    bimba    May 28, 2010   Boston, MA

    awesome... i feel better about this!!!! thank you all!

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    littlebug    5/30/2010   MA

    Haha it sounds like everyone one this board would be so excited to get chocolate as a favor! Me too! That's so nice that she's offering to make it for you!

     
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    vistagirl    march , 2010   Oregon

    hmm I think in order to decide I would have to sample many of the chocolates. It is the only way I could give you a fair assessment you know ;)

     
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    Marinara    08/14/2010   San Francisco, CA

    chocochocochoco all the way

     
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    tomsbride    May 21, 2011   kingston, ontario, canada

    im portuguese i know the feeling but honest last few weddings i have been too my hunny ate my chocolate favour on me both times, i was actually pretty upset over it, and the other one we got little porcelain spoons, we forgot about them when we left the reception and i couldnt care less... im all for the edible favours... when i get to them before mr T does... he does it on purpose too he doesnt even like sweets! or cake... but he always eats my piece... WHY!!!

     
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    Sep_Queen    September 4, 2010  

    Im doing chocolate! I think its a great idea...

     
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    MrsJellybean227    January 1, 2011   TN

    Not tacky at all. I'd much rather recieve the chocolate. We're personally doing a candy buffet. I'm all about favors that can fill the tummy!

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    i'd rather have chocolate than some stupid trinket that will collect dust in my house.

     
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    Bella13    May 13, 2009   Honolulu, Hawaii

    I'm with vistagirl :)

     
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    Toffee    January 15, 2011   Hayden, Id

    I'd say have your mom try/see the chocolates and look at how you'll be giving them away. If she realizes how delicious and beautiful they are she might let up a little on you about it.

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    Um, our favors are little boxes of chocolate.  Actually, chocolate-covered biscotti bites. They are delicious.  FI is Italian, so I thought it was a good fit.  I think people will like them.

     

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