Post # 1
so bees… i need to know if little boxes of chocolate as favors are too tacky…
my mother in law’s fiancee’s sister offered to make homemade chocolate as favors for our wedding, and i think it is great since it is free!!! BUT, my lovely italian mother is driving me crazy because in italy we dont give out any kind of candies as a gift during the wedding, but little gifts (called BOMBONIERE) that actually can be expensive, like silver frames, decorative porcelain stuff etc… she doesnt understand that we can afford anything like that even if it was $1 a piece, especially after spending so much money for the invitations OUCH!!! and then she remindes me that my cousin, who is getting married a month after me,as a good respectful italian girl, is doing it!!!! well i dont know what to think!!! i dont think anyone would care but my mother… and then i tried the chocolate and it is really good!
what did u guys think and what did you do/are you doing for favors???
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Hahaha, this is funny to me bc there’s been many a thread here on the boards about how almost anything other than edible favors can be considered “tacky” or is just not as appreciated…I think homemade chocolate candies as favors sounds like an AWESOME plan, way better than a picture frame or something…Maybe find some examples of weddings using candy as a favor (show her some beautiful pics of Amy Atlas displays) and she’ll come around?
Post # 4
i’d actually much rather get chocolate!
Post # 5
Mmm chocolate. Can’t go wrong!
Post # 6
Edibles are better than non-edibles any day. But really, favors are never required and people will not miss them if they are not there. In fact, I’ve also seen edibles get left behind. If your mother wants to spend her own money on something that will automatically get left behind and/or thrown in the trash, that’s her perogative but she has no right to make you feel guilty for not going that route.
Post # 7
This is what we’re planning on, so I’m really really hoping no one thinks it’s super tacky! Please, bees? Don’t make me go back to the drawing board on this one! 😉
Post # 8
Since when is chocolate tacky? I love chocolate!
Post # 9
Not at all. I like chocolate favors, too….instead of stuff you’ll never use (candles, frames, etc.)
Is mom willing to buy the favors? If so…perhaps she can spend her money on whatever she suggests as favors that a “proper Italian girl” should have.
For our favors, we’re putting a little card in each chair that says:
In lieu of favors, we donated to __ charity in your name.
However, we don’t want our guests to go home empty handed.
An unlimited “sweet table” (European desserts) will be provided after dinner.
Please feel free to eat some (or a lot) and take some (or a lot) home.
Take home boxes will be available at the sweet table.
Enjoy and thank you for being a part of our wedding day!
Post # 10
It’s not tacky at all to do chocolates! But your mom is coming from a different reference point. She may be feeling sad that your wedding won’t be as traditional as she imagined. It’s normal to grieve the losses that come from living in another country. Maybe you could appease her by referencing that tradition somehow. Like, maybe do one bomboniere per table and have it be the prize for the longest married couple or the guest who travelled the farthest at that table. You could tie a little note to it explaining that bomboniere’s are a traditional Italian favor and that you are happy to share this small tradition with them.
Or if you are doing other things that are traditional in Italian weddings, maybe you could make a note of them in your program. Like, “X and Y are traditions at Italian weddings. The X we are using belonged to the bride’s mother and was used at her wedding in Rome.”
Post # 11
Chocolate is not tacky! It’s delicious! 🙂
Maybe to compromise, try and find a good deal on containers to put the chocolate in that would appease your mother.. then people could take home cute tins or wooden boxes or something they could reuse? I don’t know. Chocolate just seems fine to me… but that could just be my perpetual sweet tooth talking 😉
@hazel920 I like your charity donation/European dessert favor!
Post # 12
OK, coming from an Italian background I can understand where your mother’s coming from but I agree with everyone else – I think the chocolate is a great idea! I think that if doing favors, edible is the way to go – who wants another random tchotke lying around the house? Team chocolate! 🙂
Post # 13
If chocolate is tacky, then I’m the queen of England!
I think that if you can keep your bridesmaids out of these: http://static.blogo.it/clickblog/TackyWeddings.jpg you’ll be fine.
Post # 14
Not tack! And usually homemade turns out do yummy! Just get a cute box, they are not pricey at all.
I’m doing stemless wineglasses! Found them for $1,19 and mexican wedding cookies in a small clear bag
Post # 15
No tacky at all…if mom is willing to foot the bill for fancy favors, by all means:-)
Post # 16
No way is it tacky – and since when is giving out candy “tacky” at an Italian wedding? All of my italian cousins did it. And, um… Jordan Almonds? They’re a huge Italian tradition – that’s candy isn’t it?