Post # 1
Hi everyone! I recently got engaged and while everyone is so happy for me it seems that a lot of my friends and colleagues are surprised with the size of my ring. I am a graduate student in NYC and my fiancé works within the city as well. My center stone is 2.01 and my setting is .97. What should I say to people’s comments.
Post # 3
@FutureMrsHEA: What exactly are people saying to make you think they see any correlation between your age and your ring?
Post # 4
@FutureMrsHEA: Wow! That ring is stunning! I would say something like my FI picked it out, didn’t he do a fantastic job? haha
Post # 5
I would tell them to mind their own business 😉
Post # 6
Grad student indicates you’re over 22, right?
I wouldn’t say that’s ridiculously young.
I’d probably make some wise-ass remark about having a sugar daddy.
Some people are idiots really. And green with envy!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsHEA: Has someone actually said, “You’re too young for such a nice ring”?? I think you should practice your surprised face and say something like, “Wow, did you actually just say that out loud? How awful.”
Post # 8
Age doesn’t matter, budget does, many people confuse the two. I’d just smile and say ‘thank you I love it and the man/woman who gave it to me even more’. If they want details give it to them if you want, but I’d avoid mentioning specific dollar amountd (that goes for anyone, it just seems a bit tacky to me).
Post # 9
@FutureMrsHEA: You can’t win with people. There are people on here that got engaged young and have a smaller ring and have received negative comments on it’s size.
Older brides get criticized for “waiting too long”. Younger brides are criticized for not waiting long enough. a small ring means he either “doesn’t love you” or you should have waited until you were “more established in life”. A large ring means you “spend you money unwisely” or that you’re “too showy”.
Negative people will ALWAYS have something negative to say. There is no magic age and magic ring size that all people will be happy with. I would just say “WELL, I love it!” to everything.
Post # 10
really, someone said “You’re too young for a nice ring” ? Or are you assuming this is what they think?
I could imagine maybe there’s one idiot who would think/say something like that, but I’m sure if many of your friends and colleagues are suprised, it’s not because they think you’re “too young for a nice ring.”
Post # 11
@FutureMrsHEA: you should tell them you’re not as young as they think. You just look fucking great for your age!
Post # 12
Is it a diamond?
Just smile and say “thanks, he’s a keeper alright!”
Post # 13
I’m 21 and will be engaged within 6 months to a year and I definitely worry that my ring will get nasty comments. I’m drawn to VERY detailed, milgrained, filigree-d halo rings that have a lot of finger coverage and am concerned that I’ll get rude comments from family members.
However, I feel like no matter WHAT kind of ring you get, you’re going to get comments about it from someone. If I chose a small solitaire, someone would have an issue with it, if I chose a a vintage ring, someone would have something to say. If you love your ring, that’s all that matters, and remember that you’re not going to be 22 forever, but you’ll have the ring forever!
Post # 14
I would be surprised by the size of your ring regardless of your age, just because it looks so big compared to what I normally see. Are you sure it’s because of your age?
Post # 15
What are some of the comments you’re getting, and how do you know they are directly referring to your age/size of your ring?
id just tell then to mind their own business…
Post # 16
Thanks for the comments everyone 🙂 yes it is a GIA diamond