Post # 1
I have a cousin who I’m close to who will be 14 when I get married. I’d like her to be in my bridal party but I wonder whether I should make her a Jr. Bridesmaid or a regular Bridesmaid. Her 16-year-old sister will be a regular bridesmaid. I feel like 14 is an age where she should shouldn’t be treated like a little girl anymore or be forced to wear a little girl’s dress with a modest neckline and such; hell I was wearing sexy dresses and four-inch heels at that point, I dressed (but maybe not acted) a lot like I do now. If her temperament now is any indication, she will definitely be mature enough to handle most of the regular bridesmaids’ duties. But I worry that my guests will think it’s weird that someone so young is my bridesmaid. What would you think if a bride you knew had a fourteen-year-old bridesmaid?
Post # 3
I think she’s the perfect age for a jr. bridesmaid, but without the jr. bridesmaids dress, definitely give her a fun funky dress and make her bouquet a bit more fun with perhaps feathers or sparklies…
Post # 4
i think she’d probably be better as a jr. bridesmaid. i agree that she’d be fine with the same dress as everyone, but if she has the same bridesmaid duties as everyone else, that means that she would be expected to go to the bachelorette party, pitch in with paying for certain things such as the shower, etc.
Post # 5
I’m having my sister as a regular bm (she’ll be 13)…but she’s also already 5’7″ and she acts like she’s at least in high school. However, I am not having her join us in any activities that she would feel uncomfortable in and I will pay for her dress…I’m also picking a dress that’s fairly modest to begin with. I didn’t really see the point in having a “jr. bridesmaid” since I don’t even really know what the role of a jr bridesmaid is and I didn’t want to treat her like a child. Oh–she’s walking down with my brother though…I think it might have been weird to have her walk down with a random 26 year old guy.
Post # 6
My soon to be step daughter is going to be a jr. she will be 13 when we get married, she is having the exact same dress as the others but we are adding small spaghetti straps to make it a bit more age appropriate versus strapless.
Post # 7
Like everyone else I think that she would be a good age for a jr. bridesmaid…She don’t have to wear the little girl dress you described…You can find her a dress like the bridesmaid that has been modified a little…
Post # 8
My fiances three sisters, ages 12 and 14 (twins) are going to be junior bridesmaids. Though they want to wear the same strapless dress the other bridesmaids will be wearing their mom wants them to be more modest and so we are going to add small sphaghetti straps to their dresses. So I guess my advice would be to talk to your cousins mother and get her input.
Post # 9
Due to her age, she would be a jr bridesmaid. A bridesmaid is 18+ since they are able to legally sign the marriage certificate if you so chose, and she can’t because she’s underage, hence being a jr bridesmaid.
Post # 10
My 14 year old sister will be in my wedding as a full bridesmaid. My maids aren’t going to match exactly, so it won’t look like she’s singled out as “junior” if her dress is more modest. She would prefer a more modest dress herself anyway. Of course, she won’t be with us at the bachelorette party!
Post # 11
My 13 year old sister will be a junior bridesmaid. She will be in the exact same gown as my other maids.
Post # 12
I’m gonna go with the others on this one and say make her a junior BM.
Post # 13
FI’s cousin got married and had another cousin in the wedding… at that point I think she was 13 or 14. She was a regular bridesmaid. It’s up to you. Ar eyou having other junior bridesmaids?
Post # 14
I’m having my cousin, who’s 13 (but looks 15) as a reg. bridesmaid, and my FI’s little sister who’s 8 be a jr., I think it really depends on what the girl looks like, Kenzie is very mature looking for her age, and depending on how fast she’s growing, she may be taller than me by the time of the wedding (and I’m almost 5’6″.).
Post # 15
My cousin will be 15 and a bridesmaid in our wedding. She’s pretty mature and at 5’7″ looks older than my 24 yr old FSIL I think if i had labeled her a Jr our guest would be confused as who the Jr is. She is walking with my 17 year old brother not one of my 26 yr old grromsman so that wont be too weird for her. and we went with a strapless dress she didnt feel too comfortable in a deep V
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I think a 14-year-old could be a regular bridesmaid!