(Closed) Took the air right out of my sails

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@futuregattman:  Your ok….maybe he will anyway, but didn’t want to let on!  Just hang in there!

Post # 5
699 posts
Busy bee

@futuregattman:  whats underneath this rant? Any friend getting engaged? reading magazines?

Post # 6
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@futuregattman:  Hubby said the same thing about valentine’s day…cheesey and all that…guess when he proposed?  Don’t let it get you down!

Post # 7
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I completely know what you mean…

There are two ways to look at it:

If he wants it to be a surprise he WILL say it’s cheesy even if that’s the day he has decided on.

If you’re sure he’s being honest… I would just try to not think about it.

I went through the same thing & looking back on it I wish I would have relaxed. I have planned my wedding in less than 5 months with no issues whatsoever and it’s going to be beautiful. I do remember thinking the same thing about months going by and having less and less time but the fact is you will be fine with a shorter time frame! You don’t want to keep thinking about it and worrying though, because then the memories are not as good when you look back on the journey…

Post # 8
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Many people want a separate occasion for their engagement, rather than having it on an anniversary or a holiday. I don’t think it’s weird to want to create another special day for yourselves as a couple. It sucks because you want to get engaged so badly, but not getting engaged on your anniversary doesn’t make your anniversary less romantic, and it also doesn’t decrease the happiness you’ll feel when it happens.

Post # 13
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just relax 🙂 You can’t force him.

Post # 14
12 posts

I’m sorry you’re disappointed.

Maybe you should talk to him, let him know you’re disappointed because you want to move into the next phase of your relationship and you’re wondering if you’re on the same page. Don’t fight about it, but be honest that you’re worried it’s never going to happen and you don’t mind waiting it out as long as you know you’re not going to be waiting there forever. Then you can sort of get on the same page.

Best of luck and happy thoughts!

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