Post # 1
Hi bees, I have a question for you all. So my normally un-enthused fiance suddenly has an opinion about wedding planning. He wants him and all the groomsmen to wear top hats and carry a walking stick (so they can fence each other, he said). He doesn’t want to wear tails, but he’ll be open to renting a normal tux. However, I don’t want to financially burden the groomsmen by making them rent a tux also. We’ve previously mentioned to them to just wear a black suit, which everyone already owns, and a tux rental will be at least ~$100.
My question is, would it look weird to wear a top hat without tails? Would it look weird to wear top hats with a suit? I’m not exactly up to date on male fashion and I’m having a hard time determining whether it would look really awkward. I want my FI to have his little touches to the wedding if possible.
Post # 3
@busyinboston: I think it will look weird to have tophats and walking sticks with a regular suit.
It looks costumey enough when worn with the proper clothing items, but with a suit it will look as if the “inner boy” excaped and made the accessory decisions.
Post # 4
Yes, it will look ridiculous. And the ones you rent aren’t real top hats, or walking sticks. Normally the hats aren’t even wool felt, but plastic shells with some sort of fuzzy polymer sprayed on them. If you want them as props for some goofy photos, go nuts; that sounds fun. If he wants them for the ceremony, this is a rare instance where I will say that the bride should veto what the groom wants. And this is coming from someone whose favourite possession is his silk plush top hat. If you want real top hats, you’re looking at $300/ea if you’re lucky, but a tall hat is not meant to be worn with a short coat. If he really, really wants a hat, a Homburg, Derby or Bowler (those two are the same hat) or Fedora are all good choices with a suit.
Or, persuade him to wear morning dress, and get a real top hat. That’s what I think everyone should do, and how men should dress every day. Stupid war reducing standards of formality!
Edit: If he’s wearing a proper Tuxedo, a black, or midnght blue, Homburg is the correct option.