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#1 Food
#2 Music
#3 Type of music
of course this is all the things I notice before I got engaged and now that I am, I notice so much more like flowers, colors, decor, outfits, type of favors, etc...
I notice the food, the music and the flow...that might not make sence.. I guess a better way of explaining it is that I notice how smoothly things are going...are people dancing, are there a lot of awkward pauses in the evening, does everything seem to flow.
FOOD
SEATING ARRANGEMENT
FLOW
Like Tberry, I notice whether the events "meld well" with one another. I also notice if several guests are seated really "unfortunately"...like really far away from the action, or sometimes stuck in like an "overflow" seating situation. And of course, food...even though I dont think that good food makes or breaks a wedding, but of course youre eating it, so you remember it!
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1. stationary (invites/programs/etc.)
2. music
3. how stressed out/relaxed the bride is - i say this because i think this sets the mood for the whole wedding and can really make or break the flow. :) i have been to a wedding where there was one mistake after another but the bride was just so genuinely happy and relaxed that everyon else was as well. and i have been to others where everything seemed perfect, but the bride was so on edge (some in tears!) that it kinda' ruined the whole "celebration" mood.
i have to say - i think food almost always sucks at weddings. it's hard because the chef may be able to make one really great dish but for some reason to replicate that 200 times seems impossible - and i have been to a LOT of weddings. so, i don't really pay much attention to it :)
1. Attention to detail (ie, stationery, welcome bags, old family photos, tiny personal touches, unique centerpieces, etc.)
2. Convenience for guests (Do the guests have to travel far to get from one place to another? Has transportation been arranged to help those who would have trouble driving? Are guests who have traveled far been given a nice welcome bag in their hotel room with some conveniences that would help them out? Is the wedding on a day/time that it is easy for people to get to if traveling? I know these things don't matter for everyone, but I always feel happy if I know the couple truly cares about their guests, and these are important things for us to take care of at our wedding. After all, they're taking time and money out of their lives to celebrate with us, so I think showing these gestures of appreciation are nice.)
3. Music & good dancing fun 
1. Mood/Fun - I always notice if it is a FUN wedding and if people are enjoying themselves (usually supplemented by an open bar, but not always necessary).
2. Music - sets the whole tone
3. Venue of reception/ceremony - makes a HUGE impact. I've been to one too many Chinese restaurants, but a nice elegant one does make a difference.
Music, food, and fun. By fun, I mean how much fun all the guests seem to be having (are they laughing at the speeches? Dancing up a storm?) and also, more importantly, how much fun the bride & groom seem to be having. It's true that the bride & groom are really on display and everyone is watching them like a hawk all day! The guests are there to celebrate them so they want to see them looking happy and in love.
Before I got married:
1. venue (how hard it was to get to, how cool it looks)
2. food (I spent more time with the food than I did with the bride and groom)
3. length of ceremony (I'd get visions sitting in church for an hour if the ceremony was too long)
After I got married:
1. venue (I would calculate the logistics: guest/bathroom ratio, too hot or cold, sunlight for photographs, are people going to get lost?)
2. vows (nothing else mattered once I heard the vows)
3. bride and groom (I love watching them enjoy themselves and how happy they are.
Wow, looking back at my list I was even more critical as a guest than as a bride...not something I expected.
#1. Whether or not its open bar (top shelf is nice)
#2. the Food
#3. the decor
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1) Bride & Groom greet guests and/ or give a toast; just say hello- At one wedding I went to (I know it's kind of horrible to say, but I am pretty close to being part of the family) the bride didn't come to our table and I was sitting with her new in-laws (the groom did) and I was sort of put off, but I know she was busy, it was a 200 person wedding.
2) Ceremony- just that's it's meaningful and special
3) Food- I just need a nice full plate :)
1) How much love I can see between the couple.
2) Dancin' scene. I love to boogie at weddings so I love weddings with great music and fun guests shaking their groove thangs!
3) Color schemes, themes, details. I appreciate a nice sense of style.
Seriously though, if the couple is all moony in love and having a great time then I swear everything else falls into place!
1. Organization/Flow - I think this is critical to having a seamless event. It's one of those things where if it's there, no one notices, but if an event is UNorganized, people will definitely notice.
2. DIY projects and thoughtful, personal details - I totally notice these, but maybe it's just because I now know how much thought people put into these things.
3. Music - Totally sets the tone for the event.
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the dress and how beautiful she is.
the ceremony --the special touches--their vows if they're not traditional
food & dessert..mmm and how much in love they are..
#1 Bride & Bridal Party's outfits
#2 Decor & Ambience
#3 FOOD!!!!
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1. Venue
2. Mood/Ambience
3. Personal Touches & details
1. Good Food and Open Bar a Must!!!
2. Appropriate music (soft and mellow during dinner, dance-able music later on, variety, etc.)
3. Other guests at my table (the guests should be seated according to similarities, so they can talk and have a good time together)
1. The chemistry between the bride and groom
It doesn't matter if the wedding is at such a humble venue, but as long as the couple looked like they're having so much fun and enjoyed themselves, it made the wedding beautiful and memorable.
2. MC or lack of
I've been to a wedding once that didn't hire a professional MC or there was no DJ to introduce activities, and it made the event very uneventful, sad to say. Things just happened and people don't pay attention. I've also been to a wedding where the MC is too out there and made inappropriate comments.
3. Slideshow
I love slideshows! It's a chance for the couple to share more about them with the guests and it's so fun to see them as separate individuals becoming one at the end. Sometimes a tear jerker. Gotta have it!
I notice food, music, and then probably the bride and how she looks the most.
Some things I don't notice...I hardly ever notice if there are things like favors. I would notice nice decor but if the food wasn't good then I could care less about nice decor...I would be thinking the bride should have spent more on the food and less on the decor.
And I know it's horrible to say but most ceremonies don't make a great impression on me...I find my mind wanders a lot especially when there are readings, songs, etc. I've already heard a million times. I do like the actual vows, those are always nice. And I think a lot depends on how close you are to the bride/groom...it's always more special when it's a close friend/sister/brother then say a co-worker.
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1) Music--whether people are dancing. Whether the DJ plays something like "If You Can't Be With the One You Love (Love the One You're With)" which yes, really did happen at a wedding I went to.
2) Vows--I love it when the couple write their own vows and seem genuinely emotional when speaking them. It makes up for a lot.
3) Flow--in particular, I notice if the cocktail hour takes forever. There's only so long I can enjoy standing around and chitchatting with people. I'd rather get to the meal so I can get dancing!
Though I am a foodie and love it when the food is very good, it doesn't really affect how much I enjoy the wedding, since I don't go to weddings for the food. And while I will admire pretty flowers or a cute favor, I don't remember them or notice if they are missing.
i notice:
1. bride and groom
2. food/drinks
3. decor (including flowers, lighting...)
1. How happy the bride and groom are.
2. Food/drinks (were we stuck waiting 2 hours for food?)
3. Overall vibe- are people having a good time?
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Just curious: what are the top three things you notice at weddings as a guest?