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I love the reference to "illumination"! So funny!
My top three were: (1) photography; (2) the dress; and (3) the location/venue.
My top three are:
1) My dress
2) The Rings
3) The photography
My (projected) top three are: the rings, my dress, and photography, but really, we already splurged on the venue. Food and drinks were not my top 3 but we are being forced to pick from a list of preferred caterers, which were all pretty expensive, so we are spending more than we liked on the caterers, as well. We liked our venue so much that we are bending backwards to find a reasonable caterer from the list just so we can have our wedding at the venue. So I guess venue is pretty important to us. I guess the revised top 3 is the rings, the dress, and venue.
What a long answer for such a simple question! lol
Mine = 1) the food/drink 2) the venue 3) the photography.
I'd say FI's = 1) the food/drink 2) the music/vibe 3) the guests
Oh, I like this post! Mine are 1) photography, 2) dress, and 3) decor. I'll come back later with the FIs's.
1) Venue
2) Photography
3.) Decor
you gotta have photography, you can just print out invitations all ppl do is throw them out Crane & Co. has a great imprintables line, as does Target, and Etsy has some great handmade custom ones! and u should find a designer dress and take it to a local dress maker, they can replicate it you only wear it for one day
My top 3 are:
1. Venue 2. Band 3. Food/Drink
Pretty standard, I'd say...Just want it to be a great party!
1.) guest list 2.) venue 3,) photography
are my FHs (guest list is like that all the ppl who he wants are invited)
I wonder if my priorities are different because we're renewing our vows, not getting married? Because while I want a good photographer, it's not a the top of the list. I want a great party.
Now, I am a letterpress/invitation junky, so that is VERY important to me. It's the first thing people see...it's like the first dance introducing your "couple style" LOL That movie cracks me up.
Ours were pretty unanimous: Food, drink and photography. (If you count food and drink as one category, then you can add on venue to the end.)
This is exactly what we did! We both got together and picked three things we really wanted, and then everything else, we compromised on. Luckily, we both agreed on photography, the venue and paper products.
Things we didn't want to splurge on: flowers, favors, food (we picked the lower of the three food packages, but did add premium open bar the entire evening).
Things we didn't think we'd splurge on, but did: Hair/make-up for me, nice suit for the FI (to keep and wear again after the wedding), candy bar (we ended up making it a focal point in the room since we decided to not do a photobooth in the end), nice chivari chairs (our venue had awful, 70s chairs, and we spent the extra money to rent nice ones).
Things we thought we'd put more money into than we did: My dress (ended up getting a BM dress in white), print materials (a family member designed them all for free, and another family member paid for the printing as their gift to us).
I think ours were (in no particular order)
Food/drink (my parents own a restaurant, it would look REALLY bad if our wedding food sucked)
Venue (There aren't a lot of indoor venues where my parents live, but there are lots of rivers. We knew early on that we pretty much had to have the wedding outdoors and we decided that we really wanted it to be waterfront. We got SO lucky when we found a waterfront vacation rental that would let us use the yard for the wedding. We rented the place for the weekend for $1200 and two families are staying there, good deal!!)
Being able to invite lots of people (We invited 280 people, and about 190 are coming. We gave up some things to be able to invite this many people because it meant a lot to us to have them all there to celebrate with us.)
@Daisy~ Are your parents doing the food? I would love to own a restaurant!
Mine:
1) Venue
2) Drink/Food (I put drink first b/c it was important to us to have an open bar)
3) Band
His:
Same!
We're not engaged YET, but have already talked about this.
Mine:
1) Music (a DJ can make or break a reception, maybe a live band, def string quartet playing VERY specific and unusual songs)
2) Lighting (I know this is odd but I think it can make a really cheap wedding seem so much more lux)
2) food/drinks
His:
1) Music (sigh, he wants a gospel choir and is making this madatory- lol)
2) Photography
3) food/drinks
I was surprised he already had a few ideas of what he wanted... I think its cute he's thought about it. 
@KateMW - No, my parents aren't doing the food. They are buying it and having it cooked and served by the caterer, that way we get to choose good quality food. Early in planning my Dad mentioned their restaurant doing the food and I was TOTALLY against it. Cooks are very temperamental and it would be just my luck that the head cook would quit the day before my wedding. That would mean that my dad would have to cook everything and I could picture him walking me down the aisle in a chef's coat! Also, they'd pretty much have to close for the day if they did the food and they don't want to do that.
There are a lot of great things about owning a restaurant but it is really hard work. I've watched the place a few times for them while they are out of town and it was exhausting! They stay up til 2-3am, then get up at 10 to clean and open by 11. Then, even though they aren't officially working all day, the staff is constantly calling for various reasons. I swear, every time I got in the shower, the stupid phone rang! People will steal from you if you don't watch them and you have to know how to do every job in the restaurant from bartending to cooking. If someone thinks that you "need" them and that the place can't run without them, they will walk all over you! Ok, I'm finished my rant!!
@Daisy~I was a cook before I was married. I also do a little catering every once and awhile now.
That's funny -- My fiance is also really focused on lighting! He wants to talk about lighting before we even have our setup details. I told him we first need to know what our set up is going to be before we worry about how to light it! Still, its cute that he has his things he cares about. I'll bet lighting is SO important but its not something I would have paid as much attention to!
Splurges for us:
1) Photography -- we passed on videography, instead are focusing on having awesome photographs -- I want some 'glam'!
2) Venue - we're getting married in Aruba and having to bear all expenses for over a dozen people! We also chose one of the nicest resorts
3) Food and drinks -- resorts are just plain expensive. When food and beverage is all done, I expect we'll be around $200 per person. Luckily we will only have 30-35 people.
Initially, I had planned on having my dress as one of my splurges but I couldn't justify $4800+ by the time its altered and ended up finding it as a sample on eBay for less than half the cost. My other splurge was going to be an awesome pair of Jimmy Choos but they are sold out worldwide!!! If anyone knows where I can find the ivory Jimmy Choo Macy shoe, please let me know! (Actually its probably best if I don't know...)
I was surprised to get caught up in invitations. I wanted something simple and had the hardest time finding something I love. I finally found it two days ago and they are going to be about $12 each. Its another thing we can do only because our list is so small.
@KateMW - Thats great!! I think that all restaurant owners should know how to cook b/c its one of the hardest jobs and if you know how to do it, you don't have to be too reliant on your cook in the restaurant.
I didn't mean to offend with the temperamental comment, it's just been my experience that we've had the most problems with cooks. Obviously I didn't mean that ALL cooks are a PITA :)
mmm...I guess nothing is really a splurge more than any other thing. I would personally rather elope and splurge on a trip, but fiance and his family want the whole reception thing. Blah. Plus I'm an undergrad (will finish 3 wks before wedding) and he graduated this winter...so not a lot of money to work with and would rather pay down student loans then have one super great party. Mostly just covering the basics.
BUT...I do plan on splurging (a little) on our rings as we will wear them everyday for ever and ever! So I think they should be freakin' fab...but otherwise...eh, I just want to have the wedding.
My 3 are: 1) Venue 2) Photography 3) Food/Drink/Cake
I'd say Bob's are: 1) Food/Drink and besides that I don't think he cares lol
Mine are:
1.) Photography
2.) Honeymoon (a big splurge in our budget but god as my witness, I am going to europe..and this is the perfect occasion)
3.) Food/Drink
His:
1.) Food/Drink
2.) Honeymoon (he wants to go again...)
3.) It's a tie: Music or giving in to his mom for the ridiculous amount of people she wants to invite.
Things I didn't want to splurge on:
expensive STD/invites because I'm crafty and I don't see why I should pay to have someone do them without me when I can do them myself.
Decor-again I'm too crafty to pass this up..
Cake-I don't see spending a lot of money on just one dessert..like one that is worth 10,000 (Just watched on Whose wedding is it anyway?)...
Flowers that will die~just seem silly to purchase thousands of dollars in flowers to have them die that day or a week later.
Rings..but we aren't fans of jewelry and he can't even wear his most of the time (he's a air force mechanic and there are dangers with rings and fingers..)
Mine:
1) venue - knew i had to have this place before i even walked in the door
2) food & drink - our guests are coming a long way, i dont want them eating food that isn't worth it.
3) transportation - NO ONE is going to be drinking and driving at my party!
FH's
1) food & drink
2) band
3) those are the only things he cares about.
i didn't spend a lot on my dress as i otherwise might have, im foregoing a big fancy album for a blurb one and will try to cut back in other areas where possible to make sure we can have things exactly the way we want them in the priority areas...
Oh gosh, its hard to pick only 3!!!!
1 - venue/food (they come together, so I count them as one)
2 - photographer!!!!
3 - dress
This is such a great thread! So hard to limit it to three!
1) Rings.......they are a "forever" item (we will have them forever), so we didn't want to cheap out on them!
2) Photography.......we didn't budget a lot, but then realized how much $$$ photography was and chose to splurge once we realized it was also a "forever" item (my grandchildren will see those pictures, darn it!)!
3) Guests.....they are the people we love most in the world (we are only having 40 guests) and we would do anything to make them happy, so we splurged on the whole weekend!
We also splurged on the honeymoon, too. What can I say, we both waited until we were in our 30s to find the right person, so we are going to do it right!!! :)
The most important to me were:
1. Photography
2. Venue
3. Drink (open bar)
but, luckily for us, none of these items broke the bank. What has ended up costing us the most:
1. Catering - we got an awesome deal and still can't believe how much we have to spend!
2. Videographer - started out not wanting one but once we realized how important it might be, we were fortunate enough to have $ left over in the budget to book my favorite. :)
Not sure what FH's are... I'll have to ask him!
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On one of my splurge posts, somebody mentioned that something didn't make it into their top three important things to spend money on, so they didn't splurge on it. That got me thinking and I came up with my top three priorities for our money, then I asked my husband for his.
Results follow...
~Mine~
1. Food/Drink
2. Invitations and all related paper products.
3. Decor {linens, rentals, the general look of the event}
~Hubs~
1. Food/Drink
2. Band
3. Illumination...that was his exact word. LOL He apparently wants good lighting, since it's an outdoor event. Who would have thought!
We both actually should have venue at the top of both lists, since we splurged heavily on that.
What are your top three budget priorities?