Top Wedding Guest Complaints

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

What about “events starting comically late”?

Our ceremony/reception started 30 minutes late because no one could figure out how to lace up my corset-back dress!

And I agree with waiting too long for food/no food!

People complained to me (at the wedding!) about how hors d’evoures had run out REALLY quickly, and how everyone was STARVING when we finally showed up after pictures!

Post # 4
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153 posts
Blushing bee

Even when events are on time, I am often amazed at the lack of a reasonable amount of apps at many weddings.  If passed aps are the only aps available, often guests seem to get only a few and are starving.  It always irritates me because you know the bride and groom and family are paying lots of money for those aps and would be very upset to know their guests are starving.  I Wiould recommend at least one stationary ap display with at least some cheese and crackers.

long toasts and speeches are also very irritating.  They are meaningful to only the closest relatives and really should occur during the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 5
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

My biggest pet peeve as a guest was having to wait over an hour to eat because the bride and groom decided to keep taking pictures instead of starting the reception.  The ceremony was a long full mass (think two hours) and we didn’t get served dinner until 9pm.  Oh and there wasn’t a cocktail hour so no food or drinks for over 6 hours!

A close second are outdoor formal weddings during the summer in Florida.  Really?  You actually thought your guests would love sitting outside in formal clothing for a few hours in 90+ degree heat with no fans or shade?  Florida ia gorgeous for outdoor weddings for a few months of the year, please pick one of the more temperate months or an indoor venue.  Nothing better than getting heatstroke at a wedding.

Post # 6
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7075 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Gaps. I hate gaps!

Post # 8
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2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, the number one thing that has always bugged me is if there is an unusually long wait between the ceremony nd the reception. Anything longer than an hour is too long.  and not to cause a ruckus, but dollar dances and chicken dances really annoy me – that’s when I usually leave.

Post # 9
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve seen that list on Bridal Guide, too. I think the gripes are accurate, but almost all of them can be avoided if the bride and groom communicate very clearly with their guests. 

Long gaps between the ceremony and reception are totally annoying, but I would rather have a scheduled gap than have to wait around for two hours at the cocktail reception because the bride and groom are busy snapping photos.
 

Post # 10
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1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Ugh the cash bar debate is in the article stated like fact. When will people learn that it’s completely accepted as normal to have a cash bar in many regions of the country (and probably world)? I’ve literally never been to a wedding without a cash bar in my life. “You’d never ask a guest to pay for a drink in your own home, so why should the wedding be any different?” – maybe because it’s not in your home, venues often don’t allow you to bring your own (and charge 10x more than you making it yourself in your home), and each guest forking over $5 per beer is less catastrophic to anyone’s wallet than the bride/groom possibly doubling their wedding budget for something many of their guests won’t even partake in. I invite my friends to join me at restaurants all the time but I don’t pay their tab, and even IN my home if I have people over, they bring a 6-pack or bottle of wine anyway.

We did pay for a keg of Coors for our guests for $250 (I could’ve bought it on my own for <$50) plus the bartender hourly fee of $25/hour/bartender so it’s not like we got off scott free either. It just breaks my heart that there are people out there on strict wedding budgets getting called “tacky” for opting for cash bars, and being told their options are to “elope, or have no alcohol at all” (the comments on that article) – how is that any better?? We can’t afford $3000 bar tabs, so simply NOT SEEING our family AT ALL is totally more polite?

Sorry, soapbox. It really really goes by area, and I’m not doubting that it’s considered taboo in some areas of the country, but around here it is not. I just think it’s rude to blanket-statement cash bars like that.

Post # 11
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9226 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@aggie2010:  +1000000 I am from an area where it is totally normal and acceptable to have a cash bar. I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at a cash bar, I have no problem paying for my own alcoholic beverages if I want them. People who have a problem usually say that the bride and groom should provide food and drink for their guests. They DO provide food and drink, just not alcohol. If guests are going to whine about paying for their own booze, the wedding is better off without them or they can drink water and soft drink.

Post # 12
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1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can’t drink alcohol and I don’t drink caffiene after noon. My wedding gripe is when there is NOTHING for me to drink at the wedding – the only non-alcoholic drinks are Coke. I have literally been told that the orange juice is only for screwdrivers – I want to say “Then, make me a screwdriver without the vodka!”

I agree with the person that said really long speeches are painful.

 

Post # 13
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@beachbride1216:  I hear ya on the Florida wedding outdoors. I had a wedding in late May before, in a golf club, which would’ve been fine had the air conditioner not mysteriously stop working. Never doing that again!

@trueblue14:  Yeah, not doing chicken dances, electro slide, or that other silly ass ‘traditional goofy dance’ at our reception. I cannot drink enough alcohol to make me do that willingly. LOL

Post # 14
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Westwood:  Me too! Or really just waiting around in general, including disorganized events and lack of seating arrangements. 

Post # 15
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3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As a guest I feel like it’s super rude to judge the bride & groom, & I can honestly say that I let VERY few things get to me about somebody else’s wedding. I guess, the worst thing is if I starved before dinner was served, but usually that’s been my own fault for not eating enough beforehand.

Seriously, guests are so rude to say all this shit behind people’s backs. Putting on a wedding is a hard job! Have some respect for a day that is not about the guests, but about the bride & groom.

I want my guests to have a nice time, but if somebody has something negative to say about my best effort to accomodate them within my means, they can eat it.

Post # 16
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896 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@mgnt:  For me, it would be big gap between ceremony and reception, and obvious gift grabs.  

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