Post # 1
I recently got engaged and already we are having trouble on who to invite. I always wanted a small intimate beach wedding. Not a huge ordeal. But my fiance wants to invite everyone in his family. It is huge! over 100 people. I was thinking more of immediate family and very close friends. And then have a reception type party at some other point. He does not agree. He says they are all special to him and that should all be there. I thought the point of having a wedding on the beach, which he wants too, would be to have it small, not a big deal with hundreds of people that barely know me there! We are paying for everything, and I certainly don’t want to pay for over 100 people to eat bbq style on the beach in Florida. Pointless to spend all that cash on people we on see on holidays once a year.
Post # 3
It sounds like it’s pretty important to him. So I would talk to him more, and see if you can compromise. Can he narrow down his list a little bit? If not, you may just have to swing it, and invite all those people. If it’s really that important to him, you should do it. I do understand where you are coming from though, it’s hard to invite a bunch of people you have never even met before, especially when you’re paying for them to come! Good luck! I hope you and your FI can compromise in some way.
Post # 4
I ran into this exact same problem with my fiance. I wanted a small, intimate wedding and he wanted his entire ginormous family there. What it boiled to was that the most important part of the wedding for him was to have everyone he cared about there, and the most important part to me was having a Unitarian ceremony. So, I sacrificed and we’re getting married in a Unitarian church with a guest list of 300. His parents are helping us out money-wise because their family is so big, though. I’m sure it would be a whole different story if they weren’t!
Good luck, this is a tough one, one that my fiance and I still struggle with.