- 6 years ago
Hello! Maybe I can get some advice from those of you who have either a moisanite, lab created diamond, or colored gemstone for their engagement ring. Feel free to post pictures!! I haven’t seen too many gemstones or lab created diamonds on this site. I’ve seen lots of moissanites, but I’d love to see more.
When I began looking for my round cut, solitaire e-ring I realized right away I didn’t want to fall into the diamond hype so I started to research alternatives. Not only did I want to say no to diamond advertising, I also wanted to make a statement letting others know that I stood up to diamond industry. Diamonds are not necessary for an engagement. I want something different, yet traditional.
I started online research and of course there are the many colored gems to choose from, but the main down fall is the hardness (or lack of) of those stones. I then came across the famous moissanite! I loved everything about it…less expensive, colorless (representative of pure/clean), and durable. I also like moissanite because small amounts of it were found in Wyomimg, the state that my boyfriend and I met. I’m also not opposed to lab created diamonds. I just wish a jewelry store had lab created diamonds and moissanites so I could look at them first hand.
My boyfriend (aka J) and I went to our first jewelry store together to see some rings first hand. The colored gemstones all looked cheap. That’s not exactly the look I was going for. We then pretended like we were interested in diamonds and looked at some rings on my finger. I loved a solitaire setting with a thin band, but the jewelry stores made me want to vomit! First, the price tag on the diamond rings was crazy! It’s a ring! (And when the jewelery store asks if we want to talk about financing! Grrrr!!!) Second, the employees at these stores were nauseating! “Let’s get a gorgeous ring on your hand, hon!”, “Diamonds are rare!”, “You want a larger stone so it catches people’s eyes and says ‘look, I’m taken'”, “14K gold is better because it has more gold!”, and the famous “Diamonds are forever!” If diamonds are so rare, how come I can go into any jewelry store and buy one?! I’m not falling into their gimmicks! And who says more gold is better?! I’d prefer less gold and more strength…or no gold at all but a different metal?! I’m a diamond sellers worst nightmare 🙂
I asked a jeweler if they had lab created diamonds, and their response was “We don’t carry CZ”. What?! Than I asked if they had moissanite and they responded “We don’t have fake diamonds”. I had steam coming out of my ears and we had to leave. Would they call a ruby a fake diamond? No, they’re different stones!! That experience turned me off so badly that I didn’t go into a jewlery store again for months. J is getting antsy so I need to figure this out!
Of course a jewelery store is going to push diamonds…that’s their business. They look at me like I should be arrested when I say “lab created or moissanite” in their stores!
I’ve read on these boards that many people get moissanite because they can get a bigger stone than what they could afford in a diamond. For me, it’s more of an ethical thing. I wouldn’t want to buy a larger moissanite than what we could afford in a diamond anyway. My concern is that if I get a moissanite, people will think it’s a diamond. I don’t want to fool people. I’ll tell friends, or anyone who asks that it’s not a diamond. However, the general public will think I have a diamond. With a colored gemstone, people will see that I made the statement. I do like the look of sparkly things and maybe just having me and J know that it’s not a dimaond is enough. The last thing I want people to think is that my moissanite is a fake diamond. I don’t want it to look fake, and I don’t want people to think I’m trying to pass it as a diamond….it’s moissanite, a completely different stone.
Please give me any input you can. I’m leaning towards a .75-1.25 carat (need to see what the sizes look like on my hand) moissanite just because I haven’t found a colored gemstone that I love or that would hold up in my active life (that’s the reason I don’t want 14K white gold). It’s just that I would really like my ring to say “I’m not a diamond”, without me having to explain. Anyone else have this dilemma? Or are there anyother options you have for me?