Post # 1
Ok bees I need some help on a decision. Fiance and I had always planned on getting married outside at his church which is on the lake so it would be beautiful. However the only two reception options nearby to the church were way over priced and there was no way we could budget for either one. So we ended up booking a beautiful country club venue that was within our budget. The only downside is that it is 40 minutes from the church at the lake. So here comes our second option. My church that is 5 minutes from the reception site and still a very pretty church to get married in but I have to let go of the outdoor ceremony idea. I know logistically the closer church is the obvious choice but I was in love with the first church. Should I just quit being a brat and make it more convenient for all of our guests and do the closer church or am I justified at wanting my dream of an outdoor ceremony (which if it rains will be moved indoors anyway!)?
Post # 3
I think a 40 minute ride is fine to ask people to drive, just be OK with whatever is available in case of rain or other problems.
Post # 4
I think you should go to both churches this week, stand in them, and go with the one where you feel yourself getting married. A 40 minute drive isn’t terrible, but I’d much prefer the 5 minute drive (of course). Once I attended a wedding where the church was so far from the reception site (which I was familiar with) that I actually got lost and never made it to the church (well I did, but the ceremony was over). Make sure if you choose the far one that you give out detailed driving instructions!
Post # 5
I say go with your dream! If you want the one with the forty minute drive then do it. You get married once and you don’t want to be regretting your venue choice later down the road. I am also having a 40 minute drive between my church and reception though, so I might be a bit biased in my advice.
Post # 6
I don’t think that 40 minutes is unreasonable.
However, looking at your date, I am thinking end of October – outside? Potential weather nightmare. However, also for potentially beautiful autumnal pictures if the weather is kind.
Maybe you could have the wedding at your church, but then have lots of posed outdoor shots if the weather is good before you move on to your reception?
Post # 7
Although I am absolutely in love with outdoor venues, I voted for the 2nd scenario because your guests will really appreciate your venues being close together.
I would hate to lose people in the 40 minutes in between… are you sure you can’t have an outdoor wedding nearby your reception site? I know its not at the lake by your Fiance’s church but it would really make it all easier.
I also agree with @Juliepants and do think you should have the wedding of your dreams so definitely do what feels best and have no regrets! ;D