Torn between whether to do it big or small – poll!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did you regret the size of your wedding?
    I had a big wedding and wish it was smaller : (8 votes)
    18 %
    I had a small wedding and wish I had gone bigger : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I had a big wedding and no regrets : (14 votes)
    31 %
    I had a small wedding and no regrets : (22 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Yak:  We did a big wedding… all our family, close friends from high school / college / post-college, family friends, etc.  Invited ~200, had 165 attend.  And it was AWESOME.  At times it was a pain in the ass to plan, and even though we did it very casually and on a budget, it still cost 17k (!!).  But we would do it again in a heartbeat.  Being surrounded by EVERY single person you love in the whole world, on the best day ever, is just awesome.

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

    I have a huge family and had a huge wedding-150 ish people. The wedding was beautiful and everyone had a great time, but I wish we had just eloped. DH and I are very private people and I feel like the ceremony was to exposed. I would have been much more comfortable doing the ceremony just the two of us, maybe with a celebration with family later. I was so nervous to be in front of so many people that I couldn’t focus on the moment. I feel like if we had eloped we could have shared the moment together without distractions and it would have felt better. It wasn’t worth the stress all the planning either.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Yak:  we had a medium sized wedding (100 guests attended, but over 222 invited- domestic destination) at a small to medium venue (fit max 135ppl if you sat ppl in oddish places).  We LOVED it and so did our guests.  It was perfect to be able to invite everybody, and have our friends and family there, but still enough (in that venue) to have an AMAZING party.  we had a bunch of ppl telling us it was a great feel/fit for the venue. and there was just the right number so we could talk to every single person over the course of the weekend & have some longer conversations and/or multiple interactions with some ppl.

    I’ve been to bigger weddings that were amazing too (as a guest), but I’ve never been to a small wedding (50 or under).

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

     

    Yak:  We planned a big wedding, and i HATED it. Every. Last. Second.

    Cancelled that shit and had a small wedding with 25 people (including us) and it was amazing. It really depends on you, your personality and what you want. at the end of the day i was marrying my soul mate in front of the most important people in my life, and thats all that mattered.

     

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

     

    Yak:  I should also add that we had our Parents, grandparents, siblings, and our closest friends at the wedding. We were lucky in the friends sense that we had certain people who have been involved with s=us since day 1 that we couldnt imagine not being there. Everyone else just had to deal with it.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    MrsA1222:  Did you have a full blown reception or just a family dinner or something?

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We planned a medium wedding (110 people), and I nearly cancelled it everyday to elope.  It was so stressful to plan, but in the end I wouldn’t change a thing.  Things go wrong in a wedding- that is just a given, but a wedding is pretty much your only chance to have that particular group of people (all of your friends and family along with your fiance’s) in the same place at the same time and that is really special.  And to be honest- while I had a beautiful wedding, what I will remember most is the people there

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We are inviting about 160, idk if that counts as big or not. I would prefer small, hand down, but on the other hand, we are so blessed to have that many people who might want to celebrate with us.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’d consider 150 still on the smaller, medium side. We had a typical weddings of 300 people and it was amazing. It wasn’t really any more difficult than a smaller wedding and being surrounded by our entire family and friends was priceless, I would never give that up for anything! That’s the only time both sides of our family will probably ever be all together so that was worth any (with wasn’t really any) stress or more cost. 

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

     

    AnnaVictoria:  We had our ceremony, then did photos for a few hours. We rented out a local brewery / pub type thing and did a reception there. It was a smaller venue and it worked out great. We had ‘cocktail hour’ which consisted of free beer and a brewery tour, then a family sytle 4 course dinner with us and our family at one table and our friends at a seperate table. We didnt do speeches or cake cutting or dances but we hung out with all of our family and friends till after midnight. I was worried about people wanting to leave early because we werent doing all that ‘wedding’ stuff but it went alot later than i thought.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

     

    Yak:  We are having a small 10-25 people – only those who actively kept in touch through the years and call/sms/email on a regular basis. We want it to be meaningful to us and to closest around us.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    MrsA1222:  That sounds awesome! So your ceremony was a in a different place from your party? Did you have all the guests attend both?

     

    Sounds like an awesome plan. Thanks for sharing, it is encouraging!

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We had everyone we loved at our 42 person wedding. DH has a large family, but we didn’t see the point in inviting people that we never see or only get a Christmas card from. We wanted our friends who were more like family there. We didn’t invite children except those in the wedding party and no first cousins. It was amazing. We had good good food and a live band. To us, it was more meaningful. Our wedding had all the bells and whistles of a large wedding (bridal party, videographer, MUA, baker, florist, etc).  We could have had a larger wedding, but that’s not who we are. We liked having those nearest and dearest to share in our day. Our overall budget was $15,000.  

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

    If we get married we want to elope. And have a great party afterwards. (Like…a cookout bbq backyard thing.)

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