Torn on what ring size to get – Quality vs Size

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What is most important to you in a main stone diamond?
    Size : (5 votes)
    14 %
    Quality : (18 votes)
    49 %
    Sparkle/Fire : (13 votes)
    35 %
    Color : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    1168 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve always heard that you should choose quality over size and that a really good quality diamond looks bigger than it’s lower quality but bigger counterpart.

    That being said though, it doesn’t look like any diamonds you’ve listed are bad quality. SO and I chose a happy medium between quality and size. I would choose the second option as it seems to have the best of both worlds! Goodluck though, you really can’t go wrong when the love of your life chooses to make you his forever 🙂

    Post # 3
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    If your girlfriend loves flashy bling, then the largest stone might work – if not, it may be a bit “much”.  Not everyone is color sensitive, but I am very color sensitive and would not go that low of a color in that size.  Is she someone who typically notices very minute color details?

    Between the other two I am torn.  If the sparkle is amazing on the top one it really does sound like a great stone (and a halo will pick up some of the smaller size – although still a very respectible size for a center stone on its own).  For me, I am less into sparkle and very color sensitive – so I would pick the middle option.  Some girls absolutely adore sparkle though.  I could see a lot saying to pick the more sparkly top one – especially since the middle stone with a halo would still be HUGE on a small girl.

    Post # 4
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    aja6556:  i would prefer option B. Its similar to mine. Except I have a 1.25 cushion cut VS2 (2 inclusions but covered by the prongs). Color G. If DH would have added a halo, it would have been a bit much for my taste, but if your future FI likes the look that go for it. I prefer quality over size. I would prefer to have a smaller stone than a bigger one with obvious flaws. I like that mine sparkles like crazy.

    I attached a picture for reference so maybe you can get an idea of what your ring will look lime on your future FI. I wear a 5.5

    Post # 5
    3342 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    Sparkle/Fire to me is a function of quality. I chose “sparkle/Fire” in the poll.

    There is no substitute for quality.

    Post # 6
    1062 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I prefer quality over size, so my choice is the first one. Keep in mind that the halo will make it look bigger too. My ring finger size is 5.25. My round-cut stone is 1.02 carats with a cushion halo and it doesn’t look small at all. So I wouldn’t worry about the 0.9 carat stone being too small.

    However, if your gf is all about the bigger is better mentality, then the 2nd choice is good too. And for what it’s worth, all three choices you listed sound nice. 

    Post # 7
    537 posts
    Busy bee

    I agree with the previous posters. Go with the second diamond choice! Sounds marvelous! I’m sure she will love it no matter what. Congratulations on your upcoming engagement 🙂

    I always prefer quality to size. There was a bee on here that got a 2 carat diamond that was poor quality and she said she regretted it and ended up upgrading to a high quality, beautiful .75 carat diamond and she was much happier with that than a big honking ring on her hand. 

    Post # 8
    68 posts
    Worker bee

    I think it is really a personal preference. Some women prefer knowing that their diamond is high quality, where as others (like myself) don’t really care at all as long as it looks pretty. You need to find out which camp your gf is in! Ask her sisters, friends, mother, anyone… or even get it out of her some way!

    Post # 9
    59 posts
    Worker bee

    Cushions are color sensitive stones. I am a size 6 and have a 1.5 D color, excellent cut and went with a solitaire. i like bling but thought the diamonds got lost in the halo, just my opinion. I think focus on a nice stone, good color good cut because on a cushion, especially onthe larger stones, you will be able to see the difference. The smallest rock with a halo would be my choice considering the info you presented

    Post # 10
    1317 posts
    Bumble bee

    There’s a big jump between 1 and 2 in size. Can you get something in between? If you want to go smaller and better quality, I think you are better off going higher than an I. 

    Post # 11
    42 posts

    I would get the 0.90….since it’s the best cut it will look nice and sparkly!  Since she has skinny fingers and especially with the halo I think it will look big enough but not gaudy.  

    The second option seems good quality wise although I do wonder if it would kind of take over her finger.

    I would definitely not pick the third one because it’s the lowest quality.  Obviously the trade off is the size but I don’t think it will look nice and sparkly 🙂 

    Post # 12
    2031 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 1995

    The higher quality cut .9 stone. Sparkle trumps size in my opinion 🙂

    Post # 13
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Laguna Hills, CA

    I’d say go for QUALITY!! But this all depends on the taste of your sig. other. If she likes the look of a bigger rock (despite quality)… than go for that. You know her best! A .9ct with a halo will still look very nice on a size 5 finger.. but do you think she will even notice lower quality if you give her a bigger diamond??

    Post # 14
    6431 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think it’s important how “flashy” of a ring your SO wants/if she’s the type to want a large ring. A 1.79 carat in a halo setting on a size 5 finger is going to look huge IMO, so if that’s not really her style, you probably can eliminate that option.

    Post # 15
    2060 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1987

    A diamond with little sparkle and fire is a………..pebble.

    When a diamond is set most people cannot tell the difference between a D colour and an I colour.  (In addition some people prefer slightly warmer diamonds but that’s another story.)

    Without a x10 magnifying lens and a practised eye no one can  the difference between an IF clarity diamond and a VS2 diamond (or even an S1 diamond and occasionally an S2 diamond).  So go for diamonds deemed ‘eyeclean’.

    Size is no substitute for beauty in a diamond.  It’s vastly overrated and leads men to purchase and women to wear what can only be described as ‘knuckle dusters’.  Such rings have a certain wow factor but tend to be impractical and unflattering to the wearer’s hand.

     A smaller diamond such as a 0.9 carat diamond on its own would still look a serious size and with a halo would look look significantly bigger.   It would be more delicate and thus be more likely to flatter small delicate hands.

    So there you have it.  Go for sparkle and fire.

    Additional piece of advice.  See the diamonds in person if you can or if you are buying online ask a resident gemologist to take a look at the diamond just to vouch for its beauty.  

    Another thought.  You could always ask your future FI to choose.

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