Post # 1
My FI and I are talking about NOT doing the bouquet/garter toss. Many of our guests will not know each other and, depending on who catches the bouquet/garter, may feel awkward. Has anyone ever done anything else instead?
Post # 3
We are also forgoing this traditon with many others. A lot of traditions don’t make sense to me and only seem to take away for the budget and the time that we get to spend with our guests. We are breaking all the rules:
We are not waiting to see each other until the ceremony.
We are not having a unity candle, traditional wedding cake, garter toss, or bouquet toss.
We are not having a receiving line.
LOL, we ARE going to have a fantastic wedding full of new traditions!
I have no problem with traditions, and some people would not dream of giving certain things up, but we want to make our wedding about us and not about what millions of other people have done.
Post # 4
I found a great idea in a wedding mag about an alternative to a bouquet/garter toss that I incorporated into my wedding. Instead of the traditional bouquet/garter toss, I created a bouquet of some grasses and attached movie tickets and gift cards to jamba juice and starbucks to the the bouquet. For the toss event, I had the dj invite all the single guys and gals to the floor. So the lucky single guy/gal that caught the bouquet would have the tools to go on a really nice date with that special person in their life. Everyone at my wedding got a kick out of the idea and I’ve heard many of my friends say they want to do that at their weddings. I just thought it was such a fun idea, and much more useful in breaking out of singleness then just catching the bouquet or the garter and hoping for some luck 😀
Post # 5
scrapsoflfe- thats awesome!
we didn’t do the toss either. all my life i’ve always felt incredibly awkward whenever i’m forced to go do the toss, so we nixed it. plus i was 31 when we got married, it just didn’t seem appropriate for us. I can imagine if I was 22, and had oodles of single girlfriends it would be more of a hoot.
Post # 6
I have thought about this over and over. I REALLY hate that part of a wedding. I will never forget how embarrassed I was at a wedding when they started the bouquet toss and here I was, single and pregnant. I am getting married to the father of my daughter but at the time we were just together, not engaged, not married..and I had SO many people pulling me and dragging me onto the dance floor to catch the bouquet. I was really not happy about that. I did not want to be out there clearly pregnant to catch to bouquet. I just felt SO odd. I could just imagine what all the little old ladies were saying about me! ha! I have NEVER felt comfortable w/ that part of a wedding..so I am seriously thinking about not having it at mine, too.
Post # 7
I’ve always hated this too, so we’re not doing it. I went to one wedding where the bride did "hot potato" with her bouquet. That was pretty cute, and it wasn’t nearly as awkward for me as the toss. (No one had to try not to catch it, no one was trying to look like they weren’t trying too hard.)
I’ve also been to weddings where the bouquet was presented to the longest-married couple or to the brides grandmother. Both of those are nice, but I think we may just not do anything.
Post # 8
We’ll do the bouquet thing..because one of my bff’s is single, yet in a long term R and I’ve already told her that the aisle will be cleared for her..she’s excited, because it is MY signaling her beau that he needs to do somethin’ about such a fabulous woman remaining legally single!
Garter? Well we might do the garter thing too, it’s just almost all the males we know ARE already married..except for my other bff’s boyfriend…Hmmmmm. Still not sure about the garter thing.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
I had a friend who did an "anniversary dance" and ended up giving her bouquet to the couple who "won".
All couples go on the dance floor to dance to a slow song, the DJ asks all couples who have been married less than a day to sit down, then couples who have been married less than a year to sit down, then less then 5 years to sit down, etc. Till the couple who has been married the longest is the last couple on the dance floor. I thought it was cute. :o)
Post # 10
We are not doing either. We probably will do the anniversary dance though. I’m thinking of making a bouquet to give to the couple married the longest.
Post # 11
We’re not doing either because 1) most of the people at our wedding are already married and 2) I would be mortified to have my Fi reach up my dress in front of everyone.
Post # 12
We’re definitely not doing the bouquet/garter toss. We just find it to be a little cruel, especially because a lot of our friends are already married or will be by the time of the wedding, which will make it awkward for those still single. Plus, I always hated having to go stand up and try to catch a bouquet… I avoided it at all costs… so it would be a little odd for me to try to make someone else do it.
And as for the garter toss… I’ve never actually seen a guy we know go for the garter… the guys have avoided it at all the weddings I’ve been to. And, the whole idea of your husband removing a garter with his teeth– definitely not for me because I’d be so embarrassed.
If we do anything, it will be the anniversary dance and giving the bouquet to the couple that’s been married the longest.
And JennyBryde, we’re getting rid of the unity candle and we’re going to see each other before the wedding as well. We just don’t want to do some of the traditions for tradition’s sake… we’re keeping the ones we like and changing the rest.
Post # 13
What Miss Sushi said — that’s what we’re doing 🙂
Post # 14
The anniversary dance is a great idea. Thanks!!