(Closed) Tossing the bouquet when nobody will be single

posted 7 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I’m the last single friend (except for some young college-age cousins who would surely hate it), so I won’t be doing this.

If you want to get more people involved I heard about making your “toss bouquet” into a gift bouquet, like with gift cards and candy and interesting things in it; that way it would be open to everyone, single or not.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m 30, and I still have a handful of single friends, but I did not do a bouquet toss.  I always hated going up there as a single gal, so I didn’t want to put my friends through it (especially such a small group of them).

Instead, we had a “bouquet giveaway” and gave it to the couple who has been married the longest. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am a bit older than you are, and most of our guests are already in relationships, so I won’t be doing a bouquet toss. I also will not be doing the garter toss.

I am considering gifting my bouquet to my grandmother though, if she makes it to our wedding. I think she would like that.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

No. I know several women who are single of all ages. Not everyone likes participating in the bouquet toss so some brides skip it for that reason alone. If you know for a fact that there isn’t a single woman (no pun intended) who is 18+ who is not married, then don’t have one just for tradition’s sake. It is completely acceptable to skip any and all traditions that don’t fit you or whatever situation your guests are in, and most people will not miss them.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

i’m skipping both the bouquet and the garter toss. when i was single, i really didn’t like participating in bouquet toss; i felt shy and didn’t understand why i had to “fight” with other girls over a bouquet even though i did want to get married. so, regardless of how many single people there will be at my wedding, i didn’t want my single girlfriends felt the same way i did.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Im also skipping garter and bouquet toss…they both seem so dated…and for myself, just more of something a bride would take part in who has many single friends…i personally have NONE, and FI either, so both are out

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m only 25 but most of my friends are in relationships and have been for a while, so technically the “single ladies” will be few and far between, however the last wedding I went to the bride forgot the bouquet toss and most of the young (attached) female guests were pretty shattered about it! We’re doing it but there’ll be no hideous MC targeting people to get out on the dancefloor – if girls want to do it they can and if they don’t they certainly don’t have to! I’m not doing the garter toss though, cos I can’t stomach the thought of the fella up my dress in front of all of our family – cringe!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We skipped the bouquet toss because I knew my single friends would be really uncomfortable with it. Instead we presented the bouquet to my grandparents who were celebrating their 51st wedding anniversary. Yes, we got married on the same day as my grandparents… it was really special and my grandmother cried.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Miss Riley, that is the sweetest idea!

I’m 30, hubby to be is 36. We’re two of the last singles in our group of friends, so we’re going to skip the whole flower/garter toss thing. I thought of putting my flowers on my grandmother and grandfather’s grave as they helped raise me and passed away in ’05.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

If it is something that you’d like to do want don’t want to single out a very small group of single friends – just open it up to all the ladies – single or taken!  Then you can still enjoy the bouquet toss (assuming it is something you’d like) but you aren’t embaressing any of your friends.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

FYI, from my experience, divorcee’s do not typically join in the bouquet toss, so i wouldn’t count on them to join in 🙂 i don’t think i’ve ever seen someone who was divorced out there trying to catch it!

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m not 30 but I thought I’d post anyway 🙂 hope you don’t mind.

I only had my sister and my brother-in-law’s son to throw my bouquet to and the gater toss too. I made sure I aimed right for my sister and my husband made she his aim was right for Ty! It was kinda funny! and fun too!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

What about giving it away with an anniversary dance? Get all the married couples to dance, and start knocking them down by how long they’ve been married (24 hours, 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years, 15, etc). We’ll get to at least 50 (though we’ll get to 60+ if my aunt and uncle make it!). The last couple standing gets the bouquet!!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@afbacher:  I love this idea!  We’re having a very intimate, family only wedding, so it’s easy to do this without the dance.  My parents are celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary two weeks before our wedding.  I think I’m going to give my bouquet to my mom!

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