- 6 years ago
Hi Lady Bees,
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together 1 year, and its been nothing but wonderful, romantic, healthy, ‘easy and effortless ‘ (his words)
We are both are 44. He has never been married, I have been divorced/single for the last 10 years looking for him. He comes from a small, kind & loving family. His parents are adorable & have been together since the 8th grade! I felt accepted & welcomed in unconditionally. His family & I email / text weekly. They already treat me like their daughter in law! I’m the first woman they have met, & he’s discussed in 7 years.
He is taking me to Spain and Portugal for my 45th Birthday in May for 16 days. We discussed a birthday trip, but he is the one who pulled the trigger and bought us tickets – so there is no question that we are indeed going! I am so excited!
It may sound strange- but we have never had a fight or arguement. Our relationship is healthy appreciation, ease, genuine respect, love and compatability. He said “I love you” first, & tells me he loves me daily. He regularly says the most loving things to me & makes me a priority. He reaches for and holds my hand in the middle of the night which just melts my heart. He says he misses me even though we live 3 miles apart. He has been ‘cleaning” up his house – throwing things away, fixing things up, & has given me a key. We fire on all cylindars: emotional, mental, chemistry & spiritual. And the biggest one of all- we genuinally like and respect each other AS IS! He really is the most wonderful man I have ever met and I feel his love & devotion through his actions, words and physcial touch.
Other than our first or second date mentioining we both embrace the institution of marriage- we have never again discussed marriage, or being married. That being said – I can easily see him proposing without ANY hints at ALL & wanting to completely surprise me.
So- the million dollar question: how many of you were in the same situation? Older couple, wisdom earned from prior relationships ; but now without doubt have found the ONE you have so patiently been searching/waiting for. There’s a silent understanding & an unspoken known that your search for the other has ended and life’s adventures will be shared together now.
Did he propose WITHOUT ANY HINTS, SIGNS, MARRIAGE DISCUSSION, RING PREFERFENCE etc… Did he completely blindside you with his proposal? Did you not see it coming at all? And I mean really no discussing it! A complete shock of a surprise proposal?
Curious if there are sisters who’s proposals were a COMPLETE, total surprise without any prior discussion of marriage?