Post # 1
I am a wreck right now which makes me even more upset because an hour ago I was excited and happy…
Today my mother and I went dress shopping which was interesting but also good. I found my dress within the first few I tried on (I did try a few more) and was thrilled to get a good deal on it. It’s a Maggie gown (my favorite designer) and has just about everything I wanted and looks fabulous on me. We went to pinkberry after and talked about wedding deets and what not and I was feeling good – kinda on a dress high I guess. But since we’ve been home, I’ve been thinking on things and now I just feel really down. It’s like I went from bridal mania to bridal depression. There are a few things playing into this:
1. At Thanksgiving dinner we spilled the beans about the wedding and there wasn’t really any excitement, like seriously I think I heard crickets chirping. It made me very sad that no one was like “that’s great!” it was kinda like “oh.” I don’t know if it was everyone’s turkey coma or what but it hurt my feelings.
2. I have been trying to get in touch with my best friend for about a week now. I want to give her the news and ask her to be my matron of honor. However, she has not responded to my E-mails, facebook messages, or texts/calls and I’m starting to feel like she’s not interested in being my friend any more. I did see that she had some problem with her phone so that might explain the phone but I know she’s online so why hasn’t she responded?
3. I just bought this great dress and when mom and I were talking to my dad about budget after the fact, he was like “why pay more than $500 to drag a dress through the freakin’ sand.” My dress was WAY under the budget we’d set which made me very happy but that comment just made me feel like crap.
I’ve been thinking about planning stuff all day but now that I’m thinking on this I get more and more upset. Why have a wedding if the people I care about most aren’t happy for me or don’t want to be there, etc… FI and I might as well go down the courthouse and not waste everyone’s time and money.
I’m just incredibly sad and have been crying for about half an hour now. Is this normal?? Bridal hormones?? I’m completely overwhelmed and don’t know what to do… I would call FI but he’s at work and will be for the next few hours, and most of the other people I know are asleep. I don’t know what to do – I want to go to sleep but I’m just too worked up. 🙁
Post # 3
Oh sweetheart…it’s ok. First of all, congrats on your engagement and SUPER congrats on finding a dress! I think having highs and lows throughout wedding planning is completely normal. Why do you think people at Thanksgiving were unresponsive? Have you and you FI been together long? Does your family like him? Try to read between the lines with this one.
As for your friend, that just plain sucks. I know I’m not that great at getting back to people, but if I got an email/text/fbook message AND a phone call I’d wonder what was up. Try a few more times or ask mutual friends if something else is going on that’s inhibiting her from getting back to you.
With your dad, sometimes they just don’t get it. Don’t fault him too much for those comments. Maybe take him to a fitting or when you go pick it up so he can see that the money was well-spent.
Everything will be fine, I promise. Getting married isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, despite what many blogs and magazines would like you to believe. Just try to look at the bright side of things, even when you don’t really want to. Good luck! And stick with the Hive. We’re always here.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I’m sorry it was all so much stress, and roller-coaster emotions. I’m sure it’s just stress + maybe hormones + just the EVERYTHING that goes along with weddings at times. Just breathe, and it’ll be ok. 🙂
(P.S. Being an actual Bipolar bride is a whole nother can of worms. I’m Bipolar II, and it is miserable at times. Thank goodness for staying on meds + good doctor and family support system).
Post # 5
@fifty I know exactly what you mean… My doc is wonderful too, in fact I need to go back and see him bc I think a med adjustment is in order… I’ve been “out-of-whack” before but I think this is a little overboard and that should help – sometimes just talking to him does. 🙂
Post # 6
@EAQ219 The funny thing about the family is most of them really like him, especially my grandparents (who were the only people there besides my immediate family). That’s why I was surprised it was so “ho-hum.” One of my co-workers says that they were probably just in shock and that might be it but it was still upsetting. I guess I need time to let it sink in for them.
Thanks for the congrats and the suggestions about my friend – I’m going to call a close mutual friend of ours today to see if she knows what is going on 🙂