(Closed) Total mom freak out.

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Would you notice the kids? be upset?
    Yes I would be upset/notice : (7 votes)
    18 %
    No I would not be upset/notice : (31 votes)
    79 %
    Other answer listed below : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I don’t have kids, so I can’t really say. I have said no kids and pretty much stood my ground (no exceptions) due to only one reason. I do not want kids at my wedding!!

    So sure, some people might be upset. But it is your wedding! They will get over it…

    Post # 4
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    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    A young (possible breastfeeding) infant, and a new sibling of your FI? As a parent, I a) wouldn’t likely notice and b) if I noticed, would think “hey, it’s new baby and a family member, no big deal.”

    Post # 6
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think with the children rule it’s all or none. 

    Post # 8
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    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m not a parent so I might not have the correct perspective but everytime I see these threads I always think to myself I would like to have a valid excuse for some adult time and not be offended at all. Don’t mommies/daddies need some party time too?

    Post # 9
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    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t be upset at all.  I’d just assume they were immediate family or part of the bridal party or their parents had sitter problems at the last minute and the bride and groom made an exception or maybe (this may sound crazy) the bride or groom has a special relationship with this particular kid (maybe babysat that kid a lot and grew close?  Maybe a particularly close cousin?).  

    Your mom is going to freak out about a lot of things as you get closer to the wedding, probably (btw less than 3 months!  Woo!).  Her daughter’s getting married, and as long as her problems center on the details that don’t really matter (as opposed to “I hate the man you’re marrying”), you’re in good shape.  Offer to take the blame if anyone does get annoyed with her. 

    Post # 12
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    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I kind of agree with Arielle. I think it’s an all or none kind of thing. We are having ONLY our 3 nieces at the wedding (ages 5, 10, &12), but they are also part of the wedding party. My mom flipped out on me b/c I said that my 12y/o cousin was not going to be invited even though they are flying down from NY to Orlando from the wedding b/c it wouldn’t be fair that I made the exception for him and not my FI’s younger cousins. To solve our issue, our best man’s daughter is 18 and she has agreed to babysit for us at the hotel….for a price of course.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I see absolutely nothing wrong with you and your FI inviting the children of close family — and even making exceptions for certain friends who are traveling — while not inviting any other children.

    My DH and I invited his children, all of our nieces and nephews, the children of my two matrons of honor (both of whose children have always considered me to be their aunt, and I have considered them to be my nieces and nephews), and the still-living-at-home, minor children of my first cousins, since they had to travel from another state to attend.) We did not invite any other children.

    We had no problems at all with this. What I think WOULD cause problems is if you only invited the children of some of your friends in a particular social circle but not others, or some of the children within your family (only select nieces and nephews but not others, for example.) Unless the invited children in those types of cases were members of the bridal party, I could see those types of arbitrary decisions resulting in some hurt feelings. Otherwise, I think you will be fine.

    Post # 14
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i would assume a 1 month old was still breastfeeding and needs to be close to mom.  the niece is almost a sister to the groom and no matter the age i would assume his immediate family should be invited

     

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