Totally irrational jealousy over baby names-

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I get it.

As more and more people around me started having babies, I would secretly get worried every time that someone would use one of “my” names. Every time someone had a girl, I thought “Please don’t name her Caroline!” because that was the name we planned to use for a daughter. Well, our daughter was born in May and we didn’t name her Caroline! It didn’t suit her as well as the more unusual name I became obsessed with in my third trimester (Mirabelle). There are plenty of good names out there! 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I can understand. 

We don’t have that issue, though, because we have yet to agree on any girl names and our boy names are family names. So we’d use them anyway. Most boy names I’ve heard recently have the same feel as our boy names, so I get a little worried when I hear them, but I’d go ahead with our names regardless of what others are naming theirs.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m only obsessed with family names, which I would use for a middle name (I mean, who would actually name a kid Wendell these days?).  But if someone else in my family named their baby after my late Grandpa or my Grandma (Nell, ha!) before I had one, I’d be totally cool with it.  So I guess it’s a little different. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh I feel ya!

I’ve had a sister in law and 4 close friends all have babies in the last 4 months…all with the CUTEST names that I would want to name my non existent children. Just tell yourself there are TONS of names out there that you maybe havent even hear of yet 😛

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know what you mean. A friend of mine from college just had a baby and named her Zoey. I almost lost it, thats one of the girl names I have always loved. Now  I don’t know i ill be able to bring myself to consider it when we have kids. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@wildflowerbee:  I totally understand where you’re coming from. I have a girl’s name picked out for my next child and I’m terrified one of my friends will use it because I just love it so much. I’m also scared that someone will ‘copy’ my name choice. Ugh, so irrational but so frustrating! 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had a name for a daughter picked out when I was like 12. I’ve always loved the name Cheyenne Rose (cheyenne I’ve always just loved and rose for my great grandmother). My sister got pregnant she named one Cheyenne Janine and the other Ttrinity Rose. I was devasted considering I’ve loved this name for so many years. ive also loved the name Tristan for a little boy and when she got pregnant again she started talking about using the name tristan. At that point I put my foot down and told her that she already took my girls name… She couldn’t steal the little boy name I love too. I that’s that’s weird since she has kids and I don’t yet, but I was really upset! Lol

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I hear you. We don’t want kids for a few years but I was pretty mad when Duchess Kate “stole” my baby boy name. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@wildflowerbee:  I would just name your child what you want to name your child.

What other people do in this department would never have any bearing on my choice and I would not let it have any impact on my feelings on the whole matter. Sorry to be kind of blunt, but i just really don’t understand this sort of thing at all.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I totally get your post. Haha I even tell my FI that his friends ruined my boy names bc their son is name my 2nd favorite and they named their dog my favorite boy name since I was 12. And no, it’s not a weird name, it’s Jack. I’m 27 now and planning on being child free at least for 2 years til we are married. I keep my girl name a secret. I actually suggested it to someone whose daughter is now 5 yrs old so I don’t think I will be stealing it when I name my future child it.(hopefully). My boss is pregnant now and keeping the name a secret til the baby is born.  I think that is a good idea! Share with your FI and parents and I think that’s all that need to know, especially if you aren’t expecting. I’ve had our boy and girl names picked for like 3 years haha. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Those are very very popular names right now. If you don’t want jealous feelings, you should start trying to get attached to names that aren’t in the top 25 most popular.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I know how you feel! Every time another friend has a baby, I am worried they will “steal” one of the names I like!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have only told my brother and his wife, my mother, and my sister the name I have picked out for a girl – and it is final & will not change. When my Grandmother was really sick with cancer in the hospital she asked me if I had babies what would I name them. I told her the girl’s name and I have wanted that name for 8 years – I didn’t tell Grandma a boy’s name since we haven’t even picked one out still – but if someone else picks that same name – too frickin’ bad – I am STILL naming my daughter that name.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MRSsrm85:  George is one of the classics, noone can steal it. You can still name your kid that!!!

 

OP, you’ll be fine. Likely you will find more names you love, or, just name your kid whatever name you want.

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