Post # 1
As of today the wedding is 39 days away and I have realized I am totally sick of wedding planning. I am sick of all the money being spent and every time I turn around another bill needs paid or there is something else we need/must have. I am tired of having no help from my BMs. Fiance is busy renovating his house to sell so we will have enough money to buy a bigger place plus he works 12 hour days so he can’t really help. My parents are deceased as well as my daughter.
The stress is really getting to me. I am biting my tongue to avoid alienating the BMs so they will hopefully at least show up for the rehearsal and wedding itself. While I did not expect for them to put their busy lives on hold, some help would have been appreciated. I have posted about this before and followed some of the suggestions offered by da bees but it boils down to everyone has good intentions but no time to actually follow through.
I am ruining jy hair by pulling on it all the time, my nails look HORRIBLE and worst yet, I am starting to regain the weight I lost. If it wasn’t for all the arrqangements already made and the fact that we have gotten most of our RSVPs back, I would cancel the whole thing!
Thanks for the opportunity to vent!
Post # 3
I haven’t hit the super stressed out stage yet, so I’m not sure if my advice will help but it’s worth a shot! Can you possible take a few days off from anything wedding related? Take the time you would spend planning and do something relaxing-go for a walk or work on one of your hobbies. Even take a break from weddingbee (oh the horror, I can’t believe I’m saying this!). Since I’m unemployed, I’m on here all the time through the week. On the weekend, that’s time for my fiance and I.
Another thing I know has worked for some of the other bees and posters is having a Wedding Wednesday. That’s the day to focus on wedding details and the rest of the week you go about your usual business. I know closer to the wedding there’s more to do, so maybe you can set aside two or three days for wedding planning and the rest is for you to focus on yourself.
Post # 4
Tessa – I think you’re spot on! Pick days to deal with the wedding. Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday. Anytime other than that, just enjoy life and your time with your fiance. It is so easy to get caught up in the Wedding Industry’s ideas of what you "have to do". Remember, this is about a celebration of your love for eachother. DON"T FORGET THAT!
Post # 5
Bluespurrs, I totally felt your pain at that point of the wedding planning. Alternating days is a great idea. I know there are 39 days left until your wedding, but you still need to take time for you while you’re not thinking about your wedding. You said you’re gaining back some of the weight you had lost…instead of turning to food, maybe go for a quick walk around your block once or twice when things are overly frustrating. It will help to clear your mind a bit and prevent you from unnecessarily snacking.
Also, are you going on a honeymoon after the wedding? If so, keep your eye on the prize! If not, keep your mind on how happy the rest of your life is going to be with your FH! Keep trying to take a step back and thinkabout how great it’s going to be to be husband and wife, and how when everything is over, it’s going to be the two of you!
I’m sorry that your BMs are lacking in the help department. Keep your head high and remember that you have about a month and a half left…you can do it!
Post # 6
I’m a little less than a year out and I’m ready sick of it! I just don’t have the "I’m excited for my wedding" gene in me. But I hope in 39 days you’ll feel completely different and have an exciting day!
Post # 7
You are all so on the money for taking time out for yourself while planning a wedding.
I well remember the stress and anxiety that comes along with planning a wedding. The endless lists, money worries, and personality struggles that come along with it.
Here’s my first tip for you:
Take 5 minutes to go to a place where you can be left alone and quiet. It doesn’t matter if it is indoors or out as long as no one will bother you during this time. Let’s call it your "recharge time". It is crucial that you take some time each day to recharge and relax. Even 5 minutes a day can make a difference, 10 is better, and 30 is the best.
Here’s what I want you to do with this first 5 minutes. Breathe. That’s it. Sounds crazy doesn’t it? But when you breathe in and out through your nose slowly and deliberately, things begin to change inside of you. Your heart rate slows down, your blood pressure drops, and your mind clears. Now here are your breathing directions:
Breathe in slowly saying quietly to yourself, "I breathe in happiness" and then slowly exhale and say quietly to yourself, "I breathe out release". That’s it. Don’t believe it works? Give it a try and then check back in with me here to tell me how you felt afterwards. What have you got to lose?
Wishing you only joy and harmony for your big day and beyond.