Post # 1
I’m 17 days away and I feel like I’m totally losing my mind. My short term memory is shot and I can’t remember which tasks I’ve completed from moment to moment. I feel on edge and have a few great vendors who have bent over backwards to help me. I also have a few that I can’t reach and have sent bills that are incorrect. There are people that will only RSVP maybe and others that insist that they must sit with certain friends. My FI doesn’t get it at all, or rather, he understands that I’m stressed, but not why it’s important to me. So, he’s being a bit withdrawn and that just compounds my anxiety. Is there anybody out there who can relate? I just need to hear that I haven’t totally lost it.
Post # 3
My FI asked me what was I going to do about our linens being wrinkled and I lost it. I don’t want to answer the phone out of fear its anothing wedding emergency. I’m sick of people asking me if I’m excited. I completely understand what you’re going through…..
Post # 4
@Ms. Kitty: Hi, I’m sorry to hear that you are so stressed out and upset. My wedding isn’t for 5 months but I’m sure I will be right there with you when the time comes. It sucks that you feel your Fiance isn’t totally grasping the whole ordeal you are going through but I feel your pain, mine doesn’t get it either. Everything falls on us. Is there any family or friends nearby that could help you out with anything? I’m sure they would love to help if you’d ask. I helped out a friend who;s wedding I wasn’t in and she was so grateful, her bridesmaids didn’t think to ask.
I’m sure you are super organized but to help keep your mind clear and make sure you do everything, just make yourself daily to do lists and cross them off as you complete each task. It may also help you feel more relaxed and give you a sense of accomplishment when you get to cross them off! I don’t know, just an idea.
As for the vendors that won’t call you back, is it possible for you to go to their location or office (if there is one) or, send someone else. I would give them a few more days and then leave a message saying you want a call back or you will be filing a complaint with either their manager. You SHOULD NOT have to deal with this a few weeks before your wedding.
As for the rsvps and seating. Your friends do not get to pick where tehy sit, sorry, that’s totally inappropriate for them to ask, unless you gave them that choice. I would rather have people at tables they don’t like anyway, this will get them up and dancing! If people cannot give you a yes or no, I would count it as a no. Call them again right before your final head count is due and tell them you need to know yes or no. You shouldn’t have to pay the crazy amount of money per head for someone who isn’t going to show up, that’s really rude.
Try not to stress any more than you already are, try going to the gym or getting a massage or anything you find relaxing. Everything is going to be beautiful and perfect etiher way. As for the Fiance, I think guys just withdraw because secretly they don’t care about the hoopla of weddings. I’m sure he cares you are going through this but talk to a friend or family member instead. I’ve learned that the hard way. Good luck!!!!!!
Post # 5
Trust me I feel your pain! Ive only been getting a few hours of sleep a night and constantly feel nauseated from stress. UGH. And I don’t even want to look at my bank account anymore. 🙁 can’t wait until this is all over with!
Post # 6
I feel like I’m gearing up for a mental breakdown LOL. Everyone keeps saying “oh my god, 2 weeks EEEEE!” and I want to hurt them a little. Dont’ remind me! I need to knock off some DIY and last minute tasks so I’m desperately trying to get that all wrapped up over the weekend so I can relax (ya right!) and just anticipate the day’s arrival without going through mental check lists of things I haven’t done. Tip for all you brides out there: DO ANY DIY YOU CAN EARLY.. DO NOT WAIT FOR 2 WEEKS LEFT! I’m an idiot.
On the list for tonight: finish memorial candles, card box.
One day at a time ladies!
Post # 7
@MrsSawyer: you’re not the only one that has put DIY stuff off.. I have all the supplies sitting in my closet, but they’ve been there for a few months untouched. lol I think I need the time crunch to light a fire under my butt.
Post # 8
I hear you, and I’m having a courthouse wedding with a reception. I keep thinking of all of these things I haven’t done when I try to sleep at night. And, I recently lost more than a 1/3 of my income at work, so lots of my “wedding” $ is gone. I have to have the discussion with FI about the cost of food and such for the reception, and I’m not looking forward to it. I don’t think he’ll understand why I need drink dispensers for our lemonade and tea 😉
Post # 9
@MrsDTMajor: LOL!!! I get so annoyed when they ask me that too! My real response is HELL NO! I NEED MORE TIME! But I normally say… Yes, It went by too fast.
Post # 10
@Mrs.Beeloney: That’s what I Keep saying too! Can’t wait for this STRESS to be over. All the DIY things I wanted to make are no longer FUN to make. :
Post # 11
My FI is the same way… Everything about the wedding is up to me. I can’t believe it’s almost 2 weeks away! That’s CRAZY to me!! Where did the summer go??
Post # 12
I’m a HUGE ball of stress right now, but luckily FI is here (*ahem*, sort of.. he’s actually away for work until Monday) to help mellow me out. He’s been a saint over the last few weeks, he really has.. everything that has gone wrong, he’s handled is a timely manner, and to the best of his ability to make sure I don’t freak out even more.
- My MOH offered months ago to do a candy buffet for us (to serve as guest favours). She told us yesterday that she couldn’t do it–FI put in an order for 144 chocolate truffles, today, so we’re covered.
- Our photographer flaked on engagement photos, and has been hell to contact since we booked him (he moved 4 hours away, to a small town and apparently has bad cell recpetion, and limited Internet access.. ugh)–FI talked him into getting us a second shooter for the day (at no extra cost).
- I’ve had a h*ll of a time trying to print out the programs I’ve designed–FI sent them off to Staples to get printed/folded (tri-fold). Extra $, but he wanted to save me the freak-out, lol.
- I felt bad for only getting my BMs necklaces and sunglasses (although, no one has stepped up to the plate at all during the whole planning process, and my bachelorette was a huge letdown)–FI splurged on engraved champagne flutes for our entire wedding party (12 people, or 14 including us)..
- Florist mock-up drama–FI contacted her, and had her re-do it.
- He’s been dealing with our DJ one-on-one with surprise songs for me.
- He’s joked about winging his vows on the wedding day, but let it slip the other day that they’re written, and “somewhat sentimental”, lol..
I’m so blessed, and so grateful for everything he’s done/continues to do. I can’t wait to marry him in 14 days (and finally have this over with)! 😛