Tough spot & need to decide

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1125 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010


i am sorry, this is such a difficult decision… I think you already know what you need to do even if it’s heartbreaking. don’t feel guilty about it. Your pets AND you deserve to have a better quality of life than that. Unfortunately it is not possible for your pets to get better, but you will be much better once it’s done. 

what would you say to someone who posted something similar? I think you know what people will tell you and there’s nothung wrong with looking for validation… But please put all of your family out of its misery. Having had to let 3 cats go recently, I understand your dilemma, but you will feel much better afterwards.

Post # 4
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am so sorry you are going through this. I think even putting the pet issue aside, you need some help from your family to lift this enormous burden that is resting all on you.

Your dog is 13 years old which is a good long life. If he were just blind that would be one thing, dogs don’t need their eyesight much. I can’t imagine how he will adjust to an impaired sense of smell.

If your dog is miserable and not getting enjoyment out of life, I would suggest thinking about putting him down. It’s an extraordinary gift that we can give our pets to end their suffering when the time is right. I would not prolong his suffering, or yours, if you truly believe that he is miserable. I think we all will know in our heart of hearts when the time is right, when our dog is only going on to be strong for their owners.

I think the same goes for your cat, but as she is young I would continue to explore different diet options for her if you’re having reservations about putting her down now. She could get better, but your dog probably not so much.

Post # 5
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@lorie:  So sorry your are going through this. I would honestly say, if their quality of life is miserable day-to-day, let them rest in peace. 13 years is a good long happy life with your dog, and the poor thing is probably ready to go. Spend the last few days loving on him/her and giving good treats and then say your goodbye. I know its so hard, but I would have a hard time watching them suffer.


With the kitty, I would ask a vet you trust what their advice would be. If the poor thing is feeling ill all the time, it may be the best route as well to let them rest. Plus cleaning poo all the time has to be causing you so much stress. Just know that you are not a bad person for doing this. I wish you well & keep us updated.

Post # 6
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

No animal deserves to suffer and I think it is very responsible and kind that you have put so much into trying to heal their issues.  You will have to make this decision but no one could fault you for sending them off and in fact, it is probably the best thing for them (and you).  

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