Post # 1
I’m in a difficult situation. I have a 13+yr old dog who in the past 3 months has gone blind, deaf and lost most of his sense of smell. His body is still healthy otherwise but his day to day life is pretty miserable. He can’t settle down for very long day or night. He wanders. He can’t play with anything & can’t even find his food unless he trips over it (even when I heat it to make it smell more). The vet said he would adjust but it’s been 3 months and without any of those major senses functioning, I can’t imagine how he can adjust. He often soils in the house even though I work from home and let him out frequently.
On top of this I have a young but chronically sick cat. She has been sick since she was 10 months old and I’ve spent a lot on vets but no one can resolve her problem. She has some kind of digestive problem and is always thin but worse: she had diarrhea everywhere. I even took her to one of the country’s best vet teaching hospitals which is in our state and they can’t come up with a diagnosis or treatment.
I run my own business, handle all my 89 year old mom’s health and living issues, have a teenage daughter, and a husband who works many hours and goes to school at night.
I’m at the end of my rope and think how much easier life would be without the elderly, sad dog and sick cat. I’ve been cleaning up kitty diarrhea for 3.5 years, watching the cat constantly uncomfortable or in pain. I’m up at night with the dog. Any thoughts would be welcome. I know I need to make a decision soon, but it’s all on me and it’s hard. Thanks.
Post # 3
i am sorry, this is such a difficult decision… I think you already know what you need to do even if it’s heartbreaking. don’t feel guilty about it. Your pets AND you deserve to have a better quality of life than that. Unfortunately it is not possible for your pets to get better, but you will be much better once it’s done.
what would you say to someone who posted something similar? I think you know what people will tell you and there’s nothung wrong with looking for validation… But please put all of your family out of its misery. Having had to let 3 cats go recently, I understand your dilemma, but you will feel much better afterwards.
Post # 4
I am so sorry you are going through this. I think even putting the pet issue aside, you need some help from your family to lift this enormous burden that is resting all on you.
Your dog is 13 years old which is a good long life. If he were just blind that would be one thing, dogs don’t need their eyesight much. I can’t imagine how he will adjust to an impaired sense of smell.
If your dog is miserable and not getting enjoyment out of life, I would suggest thinking about putting him down. It’s an extraordinary gift that we can give our pets to end their suffering when the time is right. I would not prolong his suffering, or yours, if you truly believe that he is miserable. I think we all will know in our heart of hearts when the time is right, when our dog is only going on to be strong for their owners.
I think the same goes for your cat, but as she is young I would continue to explore different diet options for her if you’re having reservations about putting her down now. She could get better, but your dog probably not so much.
Post # 5
@lorie: So sorry your are going through this. I would honestly say, if their quality of life is miserable day-to-day, let them rest in peace. 13 years is a good long happy life with your dog, and the poor thing is probably ready to go. Spend the last few days loving on him/her and giving good treats and then say your goodbye. I know its so hard, but I would have a hard time watching them suffer.
With the kitty, I would ask a vet you trust what their advice would be. If the poor thing is feeling ill all the time, it may be the best route as well to let them rest. Plus cleaning poo all the time has to be causing you so much stress. Just know that you are not a bad person for doing this. I wish you well & keep us updated.
Post # 6
No animal deserves to suffer and I think it is very responsible and kind that you have put so much into trying to heal their issues. You will have to make this decision but no one could fault you for sending them off and in fact, it is probably the best thing for them (and you).