Post # 1
I had a great “expectation” conversation with my boyfriend almost two months ago. I posted about it, and basically he reassured me everything was on track and listened to my stress about it. I know two months isn’t that long, but I am starting to get so anxious again. Recently we are talking about wanting a relatively short engagement and he has been talking openly about wanting to get married in the fall. Does he not realize we can’t plan a wedding in two months and the fall is 5-6 months away??? All the signs are there that it is happening soon, but the waiting is killing me, and I have been officially waiting since about September of last year, so my patience is really wearing thin. How do you keep yourself from losing it or worse than that blowing a proposal by freaking out on him in the last few weeks/months of waiting, when you know it is just a matter of time, but you still fell like your head will explode if it isn’t soon? Thanks Bees!!!
Post # 3
@mrspinnyc: Take a deep breath, dear! I am in a similar situation, so I feel for you. This point of the wait is SOOOO frustrating!
-Have you discussed the fact that weddings do take time? My SO didn’t really get that until a few weeks ago when I mentioned that most places I’ve looked at book SUPER far in advance. Make sure he undetstands that.
-Since it’s a matter of time at this point…have you started researching vendor/venues and the “big” things? This can help you narrow some things down so you can hit the ground running.
-Keep yourself busy with friends and activities. The busier I am, the less I tend to think about how much the waiting sucks 🙂
Post # 4
I feel like he knows it takes a while to plan a wedding unless you’ve talked about just court house-ing it. Let him have his timeline. He’ll propose when he’s ready and then you can both sit down and choose a date. If that date is in the fall, then great, but if not I’m sure he’ll get over it and understand. Good luck and try to just let go of the anxiety and go with the flow.
Post # 5
@Papillon23: That is so helpful, I really just needed my bees because you guys understand. My friends are supportive, but also frustrated for me, so sometimes it doesn’t help. I am totally ready to hit the ground running and we even discussed scoping places out in a few weeks, so I think part of it is he doesn’t understand these things take time. Honestly, the kind of wedding I want is a nontraditional venue, so I am not as concerned about that as I am the dress and, frankly, just being sick and tired of waiting! I like your idea of just keeping busy, that will help! Just hearing others are in the same boat and that I am not crazy helps too!!!
Post # 6
The other lovely ladies are spot-on. Relax and try your best to keep busy. Seems like the more I obsess about it, the more upset I am. And you don’t want to look back at this particular time in your life and regret your attitude towards waiting. It sounds like he’s on track and now you have to let go of the control (something I’m not good at either) and let him propose the way he feels is right. I bet it will be amazing too! Don’t forget why you love him so much either!