Toxic Friend – Let Her Go, Kept Her on FB (For Now)

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
4649 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

mrs_pudding_pop:  If it were me, I’d politely tell her that her behavior is bothering me and that I can’t be around the toxicity anymore. If she gets help and gets sober down the road, then maybe. I know people may say “stick by your friend, she needs you”. But your friend is burning bridges and that’s what addicts do. It’s sad, but true.

Post # 3
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sometimes, you grow out of friendships. It is hard when you have been friends for so long and she has been going through a lot. I have learned that there is only so much you can do before you have to let them go, you can’t fix her problems no matter how supportive you are, only she can. She has to learn to help herself. I just went through this recently. If you are done with the friendship, you should remove her from your social media. At the end of the day, think about what you both bring to the friendship. If it is far more negative than positive, then you have to move on. 

Post # 4
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

You can set your FB statuses and posts to be ‘friends except acquantances’ if you want to limit what she sees of yours.  I’ve had to do this with a few people that I don’t want seeing my stuf but can’t be bothered with the drama of unfriending.

I think you do need to get this girl out of your life.

Post # 6
2182 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you’re the non confrontational kind you simply unfollow her on FB and take a reeeeally long time to answer her texts (like 3 days to a week) and let this friendship die a slow death. If not then yes you could tell her that her recent behavior has caused you to want to out a little bit of distance between you two. 🙂 good luck OP! Friend breakups are the WORST.

Post # 7
4959 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

mrs_pudding_pop:  We are dealing with something very similar with my sister in law. She is clearly an alcoholic/drug addict and won’t admit it. Sadly, she has burned SO many bridges this summer (was so awful to me at my wedding, and DH’s family chose MY side) and it’s just very sad. She has the support of her family and she is slowly losing them one by one. Unfortunately, until she realizes and accepts that she needs help, she will probably continue to behave like this. If I were you, I’d just slowly let the friendship fizzle away (which unfortunately I can’t do because shes my husband’s sister….ugh).

It also REALLY pisses me off when she likes or comments on my facebook. I haven’t talked to her since July and my husband has spoked to her about what she did, yet she still thinks it’s okay to comment on my stuff? Makes me SO MAD! LOL

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