- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I know it has been a while since I have been around or posted, but in the past I have mentioned my girlfriend with the alcoholic husband – problems reared their ugly head before marriage yet she still married him (I know, not my problem) and long story short, since their wedding last summer he’s been in rehab no less than 6 times (that I am aware of, with no end in sight) and she just is in a miserable life through doing completely of her own. Granted, this girl was a walking tribute to negativity even before he entered her life, which was 2 years after her previous marriage to another alcoholic ended in a messy divorce.
I had always suspected she herself was an alcoholic since she exhibited a lot of classic symptoms of at least being an enabler – urging her husband last summer to try a sip of her drink when he had gotten non alcoholic beer for a bbq we were at, refilling my husband’s beer glass two years ago even though he said he was done (she’d done that to me many times in the past during girls nights) and most troubling, getting argumentative and just downright moronic anytime she drank too much herself.
Last weekend she and my mom came to visit me on a girls only weekend while DH was on a road trip. Everything was great – she has reassured me her husband was going camping with his boys so there would be no need to worry, and she made it a point to tell me she would be having a glass of wine or two throughout since it would be “just us girls”. I was wary of this, but figured it’s her life.
Fast forward to Sunday night… Drama on the phone when she discovered he would be alone that night and worries he would be drinking once unsupervised. She ended up drinking too much herself, including opening up a bottle of wine and pouring it into an empty beer bottle and then denying she had opened the bottle up. She said my mom did it and my mom is not much of a drinker at all. A fight ensued, she raised her hand to me, etc. It got ugly (when I took the wine bottle she refused to go downstairs with my unless I brought it down with us… what in the hell???), and even the next day when she and my mom were leaving for home she blamed her husband for making her act like an idiot.
I texted her Monday night telling her her behavior Sunday night scared me and that I was on her side until that moment. I wished her luck and said I hoped she gets the help she needs. She texted back apologizing for being a moron and she did not want to lose me – she also said she was going to her therapist the next night and would tell her everything that happened. I said “good” and nothing else.
I unfriended her husband on FB (I know, “OH NOES!!!” lol) and set her to aquaintances… She has tried texting me this week, trying to be normal. I am done with her toxic, negative behavior. She liked a status of mine this morning (I am doing that “list 3 positive things” challenge) and it really irked me she liked it.
TL’DR – had huge fight with toxic friend and she keeps contacting/liking FB statuses even after I pretty much said “hey, sucks to be you so good luck to you and get some help” Do I unfriend or tell her to kindly eff off? She has been my friend for 12 years and we have been through a lot together but for the last few years she’s mostly been a drain…