Post # 1
SO and I are in the process of purchasing my engagement ring (yayy!!!). I’m very picky when it comes to jewelry and although he’s pretty good about knowing what I like, he wants me directly involved in the process so I can get something I love.
We’ve decided on the local jewelry store we want to work with and I noticed that this store also takes trade-ins. One of the categories of trade-in that accept is any Tiffany’s item. I have a pretty nice pearl and silver bracelet from Tiffany that I received as an awful guilt gift from my ex. I’ve only worn it once and have never worn it since because it reminds me of him. I’ve been wanting to sell it anyway but just haven’t had the time to list it. I’ve considered trading it in for some $$ towards my ring, but I’m worried this may make me associate my ring with my ex! What would you do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@ap_event: If they’ll give you a fair amount for it, why not?
Post # 4
@ap_event: do it! it won’t make you associate it with your ex, you’ll forget all about it as soon as you sell it! i think it’s great..this way you get rid of a piece you don’t even wear, and you get to add a little towards your ring!
Post # 5
I would absolutely trade it in! If it’s something you associate with icky memories, get rid of it and use the money towards your dream ring with your dream guy!
Post # 6
Eh…we’ve thought about trading in 2 rings from my xDH and putting it towards my e-ring. It was my e-ring and a 10 year 3 stone anniversary ring. We decided we didn’t want to be burdoned with the memory that the new ring was left overs from my previous marriage. I still have my old e-ring. I’m going to give it to my daughter when she gets older, or my son. whoever wants it. The 10 yr 3 stone anniversary, i was told, wasn’t really worth anything. Cheap bastard got crappy diamonds that aren’t worth shit.
I’m glad we decided against trading them in. I wanted something new and from my FI, not something a part of my previous marriage.
Post # 7
You upgraded your ex-boyfriend for a new, better one you love, right? Why not the ex-jewelry too?
I don’t think it would remind me of my ex, but I’m not you! How does your SO feel about it? I almost feel like it would be easier to sell it instead because then you get cash you can then put towards your ring, not like an in-store credit that directly pays for part of your ring … idk I’m crazy
Post # 8
Why not, you don’t seem to be fond of it. I’m not sure I’d want the money to go towards the e-ring, though, but that’s just me. I’d buy myself something else for the money, a necklace or earrings or something.
Post # 9
@ap_event: Do it! Especially since you were going to sell it anyway! If trading it in helps get your dream ring then I see no problem with it…in fact, I would probably get some satisfaction out of it lol.
Post # 10
@ap_event: Pshhhhhhh absolutely trade it in! I promise you won’t associate your brand new e-ring with that bracelet or with your ex!!! Don’t leave money sitting on the table if you never wear the bracelet!
Post # 11
I’d trade it in where you can get the most value for it and would absolutely not make any mental connection between the sale and the purchase. Money is money. If it bothers you so much to have any direct connection, sell the ring, put the money to some other expense, then use the money you’d usually use for that expense to buy the e ring.
Post # 12
@weddingmaven: +1 money is money, but do whatever it takes to dissociate the item and its money from your ering.
Post # 13
I think that would be awesome!
Post # 14
I voted maybe. Do you think your SO would be weirded out by this? Is he aware it’s from your ex? If he doesn’t already know about this, I wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t even want to bring it up.
Post # 15
@MsW-to-MrsM: Good point. My SO does not know about the bracelet from my ex. I wanted to feel out the crowd here to see if I even wanted to pose the idea to my SO. Thinking about it more now, I think it’s possible he would not be welcoming to the idea.
I am liking the alternate suggestions of trading in towards a different piece of jewelry.