Tradition vs Reality – Who to walk me down the aisle?!?!?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I think you should choose whoever is most important to you to walk you down. My best friend had her kid sister walk her down, and it was really touching. It might not be traditional, but you should be able to defend your choice here. If you want your mom to walk you, do that.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@camigliotta:  Walk alone.  Mom will understand; most moms don’t expect to walk their daughter down the aisle.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

My mom actually asked if she could walk down the aisle with me and my dad, and I was like, “I love you mom, but no.”  My parents are divorced too and MAN!  Their divorce was UGLY!  One of the worst I’ve ever seen or heard about.  But I asked each of them if they would come to the wedding and if it would be a problem that their ex was there.  They said they would absolutely come and it wouldn’t be a problem at all.  And it wasn’t!  They were very polite to each other.  I wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle.  If that’s not what you want, then don’t do it!  Do what you’re comfortable with.  It’s your wedding.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you are really close with your mom, why don’t you ask her?  I bet she would love to walk you down the aisle.  Otherwise, I would say just walk down by yourself. There’s nothing wrong with either one of them…its definitely a hard situation to make regardless…but I think you definitely should go with ur instict on this.  If your dad wasn’t around and you aren’t close with him, then there is no reason to have him walk you down the aisle (IMO, obviously)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

P.S I don’t think people are going to think twice if your mom walks you down the aisle and your dad is there.  I think the wedding is about you…and thats the important thing.  I’m going through a situation where my bio dad was never around growing up, but has been around since i was in a really bad accident a few years ago.  I asked my dad (the one that raised me while the bio dad was MIA) to walk me down the aisle although some people suggested having one walk me half way, the other the other half.  But when it came down to it..my bio dad wasn’t around growing up and he didn’t raise me…and that i didn’t want to take that moment away from me and my dad. I know its a hard situation…but it will work out

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Why don’t you have both of them walk you down the aisle?  That’s what I’m going to do.  My dad and I haven’t been close since my parents divorced when I was 9.  There were plenty of years that I didn’t see him.  A friend of mine in a similar situation had both of her parents walk her down the aisle and I thought it was a great idea!  So, we’re going to do the same.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I know it has been a month until the reply, but you’ve still got time to think about this, and i say…

Ask your mom!

My best friend’s dad had a lot of problems and died a couple years before her wedding. Her parents had been divorced for a while, and her mom was single. She had her mom walk her down the aisle and it was gorgeous.

I’ve always planned on having my mom walk me down. My parents never married, and I’ve met my dad once, about 12 years ago. My grandpa and I aren’t as close as we used to be, and while my stepdad and I get along, he’s only been in my life for 8 years. My mom has been my best friend and biggest supporter. Even if my dad was there, even with my stepdad and grandpa there, she’s doing it. It’s her place. It sounds like if it’s anyone’s place in your life, it would be your mom’s. If she’s agreeable, I think it’s an amazing way to honor her. 

If anyone is rude enough to comment on your dad not escorting you, tell them that your mom has been with you every step of the way, so you felt this was only fitting.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@UKayla:  I’m also in a situation where i’m probably going to have my mom walk me down the isle. In this case, how would you handle the father/bride dance? Do you forgo it? Do you dance with your mom? I feel like that might be strange, no? gahh i’m so confused

Weddings can be so awkward for non-traditioanl families Undecided

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