Post # 1
i’m looking for Bees that had a fairly traditional Catholic wedding ceremony.
Were your families traditional as well, or how did you cope with their expectations vs. what actually happened (no flower girl, huge procession, etc)
Post # 3
@moose91: if it wasn’t for my family, I wouldn’t have had a Catholic wedding as I am not religious (or a believer ;-/) so my family’s expectations were huge.
We got married at a public chapel where 5 weddings take place every Saturday. We were VERY pressed for time. We didn’t have communion at our ceremony. I thought my family would have had a heart attack. It turns out they were fine with it (at least on the outside) and they totally understood. Catholic weddings are long to begin with
Post # 4
Catholic weddings are really beautiful even if they do last a long time. While i was raised catholic it wasn’t a huge practice in the home. My in-laws on the other hand are really devout and I was really nervous about living up to their expectations. To be honest it was much easier than I thought. As long as we were married and blessed by the catholic church that is all they really cared about. I wore a strapless dress (a no no in some catholic churches) and no one said anything to me about it. I’m sure there were things here and there that were a bit unconvential but no one seemed to shake their head. I think you will be fine as long as you stick to the “together for life” book for the ceremony…other things like bridal party/procession are just fluff and i doubt anyone will give you a hard time about it.
Post # 5
I had a very traditional Catholic wedding. It was absolutely beautiful and everyone in attendance (even those not Catholic) felt that the ceremony was very touching. I loved being able to celebrate the mass. Feel free to message me if you have any questions!
Post # 6
I’m having a full Catholic Mass for my ceremony and I wouldn’t really feel married if I had it any other way. Both FI and I come from traditional Catholic families so everyone is on board.
I’m not having a huge processional (BMs and Grooms Men) but I don’t think that makes it any less traditionally Catholic.
In my parish, the bride has to have shoulders covered (boo) but we’re getting married in FI’s parish and the pastor said bare shoulders are okay! So I guess that varies from church to church, at the pastor’s discretion. Some of my relatives are upset I’m not wearing a balero or something, but I’ve been to plenty of church ceremonies in my family where the bride’s shoulders are covered, but her tatas are spilling out and THAT was apparently okay to people… I really don’t see what’s so controversial/provocative about my shoulders. Anyway, I digress.
I have gotten comments from friends re the ceremony, “oh that’s gonna be long.” but I’ve told them they can skip if it’s too much for them. That’s why we specified in the invite that it’s going to be a full mass.
Post # 7
We are having a full mass, my FI has been fully supportive (he is catholic too, but never been to a full mass). Anyone who asks has been warned that it will likely take an hour and a half (we are doing communion for everyone if they are interested). People seem to be responding in a mixed bag, my family is unsurprised by the fact and FI’s grandparents are extremely excited (no one else has had a full mass just scripture service) but some of his groomsmen (who are of various religions) and his friends have expressed concern.
Side note: we were also told no strapless, my dress has removable straps that will be on for ceremony and off for reception (as well my veil will surround my shoulders) and the bridesmaids I bought pashminas for (as some dresses are strapless – they got to choose!).
Post # 8
I’ll be getting married in August and we will be having a full mass. I have a tea length wedding dress which is strapless but I will be wearing a lace bolero.