Post # 1
I am a Catholic, born and raised, but since living on my own I have to admit I have not been the most devoted churchgoer. I still believe everything I have always. I have always been told that as a Catholic I must get married in a Catholic church. My parents (mom is Catholic, dad is non-denominational religious-ish) have always just let me and my brothers live how we want (both of my brothers are now “Athiests”). For example, they never said absolutely NO sex before marriage, my mom did put me on birth control, and my little brother just came out as gay and they are fine with it, so we really are not the greatest example of a Catholic family I guess. I still associate myself with the church, and practice all the core values I was taught (be a good person, put your faith in God, love Him above all else, follow the Commandmants, etc). My fiance is not religious at all, but it does not bother me because I love him, and he will allow me to raise our children in whatever religion I wish since he obvioulsy has not prefernce. He doesn’t pressure me to join his views, as I don’t, and he is very respectful of my values and beliefs. The reason for this post is to ask if it is totally wrong to be a Catholic and NOT get married in a church? I have always just pictured my wedding outdoors and that is what I have always wanted, but I still want to have a Catholic wedding. I am very torn on this issue, and fell badly for wanting to stray from the traditional church wedding, but I want my day to be as I imagined…..Help!
Post # 3
An official Catholic wedding takes place in a Catholic church. There really isn’t any wiggle room on that.
However, you can have a beautiful, spiritual ceremony in the outdoors too!
Post # 4
@risingsun: Yeah, that’s pretty much what I thought…just not what I wanted to hear haha
Post # 5
Aww, sorry 🙁 I am ex-Catholic, so I don’t know a ton. There are a lot of bees on here that are very knowledgeable about Catholic rules, hopefully they weigh in too!
Post # 6
You could have your traditional, Catholic wedding in a church but still take a lot of pictures in a beautiful, outdoor setting. You could also find a venue where you could have your hors d’oeuvre hour on a beautiful terrace. Would those types of options help to provide you with at least part of your vision?
Post # 8
You can have a small ceremony in the church first then an outdoor ceremony with friends and family. Sorry, I’m in the same boat as you and this is the only option I’ve heard so far that’s anywhere near a compromise.
Post # 9
@Brielle: agree with you that she still could have both, just not the ceremony outside, but have the cocktail hour or whole reception for that matter outside.
I am not catholic, so no pressure from me either way. Do what you want, its your wedding girl! I’m sure you will make the right choice for you and your husband. However if your SO is not catholic he will have to convert in order to get married in a church.
Post # 10
@mishagirls79: Not true, actually – the SO will not have to convert in order to get married in the Catholic church. There is a little extra paperwork to do in the case of a mixed marriage, but only one party has to be Catholic – the other one doesn’t even have to be Christian.