Post # 1
Ever since my now fiance and I have been together we’ve both known that we have different taste. Favorite movies for example, I like Amelie, Pulp Fiction, Donny Darco ect and he just finds them plainly weird. Know with the wedding planning our differences are becoming more apparent. My style and the things that i gravitate more to are whimsical/romantic and fun while he has more of a traditional aesthetic, which makes any type of decision making impossible.
Has anybody els dealt with having such opposite taste when planning a wedding?
Post # 3
My hubby and I have pretty different taste, but did a good job of compromising for the wedding. Plus, I just let some things go. My girls all had different shoes, dresses, hair, etc. I thought it would be fun for groomsment to be mismatched too… but he wasn’t going for that. He wouldn’t even let them have different colored khakis, they had to buy the same pants. Not what I would do, but it made him happy and in the end, it didn’t make much of a difference.
Post # 4
Sit down together and establish first what the goals of your wedding are in terms of how you want the day to feel, how you want your guests to feel, and what your end vision is in terms of tone and feel–NOT the little design elements, more the big picture: small or big, outdoor/indoor etc. etc.
As far as the details go, you’ll just have to compromise together–which is a good lesson for marriage anyway! 🙂
Post # 5
Oh man my FI and I couldn’t have more opposite taste! I swear sometimes this guy is straight out of 1991 with his love for green leather sofas, chrome track lighting, and ferns (which we have none of in our home might I say..thank goodness!). If it screams late 80s/early 90s it screams my man!! Yuck!
I try to compromise as much as possible. When it came to planning the wedding I was really hesitant at first that our wedding would look trashy and outdated if I allowed him to help out or pick some things. Someone did point out to me a good eye opener though: Don’t you want him to be as happy as you are on your day? Well that got me thinking and as much of a control freak as I am I decided that some things I will just have to turn the blind eye to, grin, and bear it!
It all comes down to compromise in a marriage anyway. The best rule of thumb is to just be as easy going as you can be and meet each other half way! If all else fails then barter, barter, barter. I always tell my man something like, “you can pick x if I get to pick y..”
Post # 6
Yep! My guy is totally traditional, and thought all the ideas I brought from blogs and stuff were totally weird. I wanted to elope, haha, or have a quirky wedding.
While we were planning, it was really important for us to discuss WHY we wanted something, or WHY something was important to us, and we took elements from what we both wanted, and created something that was totally and uniquely us. It was easier for us to compromise once we understood why the other one wanted it. 🙂