Post # 1
My FMIL recently proposed this idea to us- forgoe the traditional Rehearsal Dinner at a restaurant, and instead have it at their home. If we do this, the would pay for an extra hour at our reception instead.
Our current time line would be something like this:
Cocktail hour- 5:30-6:30
Intorductions/first dance- 6:30-7
Dinner – 7-8
Dad/Daughter & Mother/Son dances- 8-8:30
Cake cutting/bouquet toss -8:30-8:45
Bar would close at 9:30
Reception over at 10.
So the extra hr would really allow us to spend more time with people, and to have time to dance and have fun.
However, I’m a little nervous about having the rehearsal dinner at their house. His dad is a good cook, and he’ll probably do something like lasagnas so thats not an issue. But I think its going to be really crowded and I won’t really have any control over anything. It just makes me a little nervous and uncomfortable. Am I being too uptight?
Also, Do you think the wedding party will feel jipped out of a fancy dinner? I feel that the purpose of the rehearsal dinner is to really thank the wedding party for all they’ve done, so I’m nervous about “cheaping out.”
Any bees have to make similar decisions?
Post # 3
@Kitty285: Well, we cut out the Rehearsal Dinner also. We wre going to have it at our new place, but decided that it’d be too late and too much of a hassle. I spent the night at a hotel with some of my friends and the rehearsal lasted until 8, so it woul dhave been really late and I wanted to actually get some sleep. We decided, instead, to invite anyone that wanted to come to a Host Free Brunch at a restaurant. We had a pretty good show of out of town guests and even some from in the city.
Post # 4
We didn’t have a rehearsal dinner at all. I personally would want way more dancing time than what you currently have in your timeline, so I would definitely go for a extra hour at the reception.
Post # 5
I haven’t had to deal with this… but I can tell you that I would totally take the extra hour for the reception! I’ve been a bridesmaid and I can tell you that the rehearsal dinner was never really that important to me! What I did notice though, was how quickly the wedding night went by and how I wished it could last longer!
Post # 6
We are having dinner at a family member’s home for ours. I am excited to have a low key night with the people closest too us rather than another elaborate event. I think it will be nice to relax and not have more pressure of doing it perfectly, or having more to organize. It might be nice to just relax the night before and let you future in laws take care of it.
Post # 7
I don’t see why the rehearsal dinner has to be at a restaurant. We’re doing a barbeque at my parents’ house. I think going the relaxed and casual route for the rehearsal dinner is great. At my friend’s wedding last year, we had pizza for the rehearsal dinner. It was so nice to just relax after spending the day working on wedding stuff.
Post # 8
I think the rehearsal dinner at home is more personal. Also with all the stress on you it will be nice to let something go for someone else to take care of. I would go for the extra hour. Every wedding I have attended seems like it goes so fast, especially the fun weddings. Take the extra hour!
Post # 9
Our reception seemed to end so quickly… what I would GIVE for one extra hour!
Post # 10
I think that sounds like a great idea. I did not have a real rehearsal dinner, and I did not miss it. I did also have a reception that was exactly one hour longer than yours, and it was the perfect amount of time for dancing!