Post # 1
It seems writing your own vows is all the rage, but FI and I would rather stay with the usual vows (e. g. do you, Craigslistgirl, take Craigslistboy to have and to hold…). We won’t do the obey part though. We might do the vows by repeating after the pastor, but we’d be fine just saying “I do.” Are there others out there who are doing more traditional vows? What are your vows going to contain, and how are you going to say them?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We had traditional vows, and did the “repeat after me” style for them. I loved hearing Mr. LK say those words, even when he totally flubbed a line that led to us cracking up laughing. Our vows:
I, ___ , take you, ___, to be my ___, To have and to hold from this day forward, For better or for worse, For richer, for poorer, In sickness and in health, To love and to cherish until death do us part. I pledge to be true to you, To respect you, And to grow with you throughout the years. No matter what we may encounter together, I vow that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart. With all that I am, with all that I will become, I marry you.<br /><br />Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-ceremony-full-text/#ixzz3E40MkJzK
Post # 3
We want to do traditional vows, not sure what specific version yet, though. I just don’t feel comfortable writing my own vows and saying them in front of family, I feel like it’s a private thing and it kind of feels like I would be reading a personal love letter aloud. Plus I feel like it can come of a bit juvenile sounding unless you are really a poet (eg. “I will love you forever and ever!”). I also like the idea of saying the same words that people have said for centuries. I’m not too big on the repeat after me, I like the standard “I do” at the end. We also plan on encorporating the Claddagh saying “With these hands I give you my heart and crown it with my love” since my e-ring is a Claddagh.
Post # 4
We did pretty traditional vows; I feel like the most important things you can promise to your new spouse are in there already. We repeated after the officiant, and finished with “This I solemnly swear,” as a very subtle Harry Potter reference. It was perfect (:
Post # 5
We keep saying we want to do traditional. However, I keep watching shows like 4 weddings and everyone does their own. I just think its added pressure. We both have already been under a lot of stress, we feel that we shouldn’t add to it.
Post # 6
I think traditional is fine, as long as they “fit” the couple and don’t include obey 🙂
Post # 7
We did traditional vows. I’m glad we did- much simplier for the couple, and it made me feel “married.” I don’t think it would have meant the same thing to me if my DH was making me laugh while stating his vows.
Post # 8
Following. We get to write our own, and do want to stick to some traditional vows – but may do a “We do” instead of repeating the vows to one another. We’ll work on them this weekend.
Post # 9
We are doing traditional vows but not repeating.
It will be—— Do you, (name), take (name), to be your (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.
Then I say I do. He says I do. We are married.
Post # 10
We did traditional, repeat after the pastor vows with no obey.
Post # 11
We are doing copy paste vows we will find online. So it will have what we want on there. We are choosing something short and easy to remember because we don’t want to repeat after our celebrant.
Post # 12
We are planning to do traditional vows but also write letters to eachother before the ceremony with our personal vows. We are private people as it is and feel like it would be more personal in a handwritten letter. We are just going to have our MOH and BM deliver them to eachother.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I think we will be doing traditional. I’m not good at “writing things” or public speaking so I’d rather not go to far out of my comfort zone on my wedding day! Standing up there with everyone staring will be tough as it is!