Post # 1
So, our wedding is about 2 1/2 months away now…soooo too late to change this really but-
Do you ever regret having a big traditional wedding? Ours isn’t going to be HUGE but…it’s the courtyard wedding and banquet hall reception, around 100+ guests, catering, DJ, etc. etc. etc.
And more often than not these days I really wish we had just planned a simple destination wedding in the carribean somewhere with us, our parents/sibligns, and some close family and friends…it’s just SO much more us. We are both sorta shy people and more intimate settings with a fewer number of people is way more our style.
I think when we started planning…we just figured that the ‘traditional’ type wedding was the route to go…I have a very large family (my dad is one of 9 kids and my mom is one of 4…and tons of cousins) soooooo that’s just how things fell into place. And once deposits started being made (large ones) it was too late to go back really.
Too late to change it…..so do you have any suggestions on how to not get completely overwhelmed with this monster of a wedding we WILL be having? lol
Post # 3
I think DW are special. But I had a traditional wedding, and never regret it. It was important to me to have as much family as possible. And with a DW you don’t get that. I also think if the for people who are torn between the two, the idea of a traditional wedding and a DW vow renewal on a vacation, in a few years or something is easier, than a DW wedding with a vow renewal down the road with a your family. If you’re looking to have your family around you, it just doesn’t pack as much punch.
Post # 4
Yeah… I mean I’ll be glad to have our family and friends there….although my parents moved a good distance away from their families back in the day so all my family will be from out of state and such…so we’ll see how many can make it.
There are good and bad things about both ways of doing it I think….it’s either have everyone there (or everyone possible) but maybe be a bit more expensive and maybe a little more hectic on the day of…..or do destination but only have a few people there.
The anniversary/renewal of vows is a really nice idea though Tanya123…maybe we’ll do something on our 1 year anniversary! 🙂
Post # 5
haha, sometimes I do wish we’d taken the almost 18K we’re spending on this and flown our family to Tahiti or something fun. But…we talked about it and sometimes I think i jsut get caught up in the ease of a DW now, so close to my own wedding.
But I try not to think about it. Almost everyone at the wedding is my FI’s family. I invited 10 friends, their dates, and i have 5 family members coming. That’s it. So, part of me wishes I had gone with the more intimate wedding, but part of me is glad I’m still getting to "live the dream" i guess. I never originally wanted a destination wedding….i always wanted the "traditional" wedding. Plus, half my friends are still in college. None of them could come anyways, so….
I’d like to do a vow renewal some place like Hawaii, though, for maybe our 10 year so our parents aren’t too old to travel and join us. Just my parents, a close friend, our kids, his mom, his sister and her family….the people closest to us. (i didn’t mention his dad on purpose by the way) 25 years is ideal, but who knows how they will be at that point. My parents are celebrating their 25th in August and my grandparents have either passed away or are in nursing homes requiring more care.
Post # 6
We are having a big traditional wedding and sometimes I wish could wed simply and privately. I would love a simple beach destination wedding with famiy and friends.
I am really overwhelmed at work and with buying a house and have been ignoring my wedding plans (minus Weddingbee of course) for the past month!
But, I know that in the end the big traditional wedding is the right choice for us and that I would probably regret not having one.
Post # 7
Yes, the simplicity of a destination type wedding (or courthouse, eloping, etc.) is very very very tempting…
Post # 8
It sounds like you are just getting overwhelmed by everything. It’s starting to be crunch time! I genuinely hope that it will have all been worth it for you. I felt this way too as my wedding drew closer, and in retrospect I’m glad I had a traditional wedding. It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Post # 9
Thanks Chelsea! That makes me feel a little better…I’ve done almost all of the planning on my own (we moved away from friends and family for work) sooooo I’ve been a little stressed! lol
Thank God I’m not doing assigned seating….I don’t need any more stress than I already have! lol
Post # 10
Yes!! I wish we had eloped somewhere warm and tropical without all of the stress of planning a traditional wedding. We are 5 weeks until the big day and I have been overwhelmed with the little details that just wouldn’t matter if we eloped. I am having a 50 person guest list and naively thought that a small wedding meant less stress and planning. It turns out that if your guest list is 10 or 100, the planning is the exact same. I’m sure I will look back on the day though and be glad that my family was able to share it with us.
Post # 11
I always say I want to have another wedding so we can have both kinds! We did the big traditional one, but seriously wish we could have another to do the destination thing, especially after seeing Mrs. SB’s recaps!