(Closed) Traditional wedding regret?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: If you're having a 'traditional' wedding, do you ever wish you had eloped/courthouse/destination wed
    Every day....this thing has turned bigger than life! : (8 votes)
    33 %
    No, I'm happy that we are having a more traditional wedding. : (13 votes)
    54 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think DW are special.  But I had a traditional wedding, and never regret it.  It was important to me to have as much family as possible.  And with a DW you don’t get that.  I also think if the for people who are torn between the two, the idea of a traditional wedding and a  DW vow renewal on a vacation, in a few years or something is easier, than a DW wedding with a vow renewal down the road with a your family.  If you’re looking to have your family around you, it just doesn’t pack as much punch.

    Post # 5
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    haha, sometimes I do wish we’d taken the almost 18K we’re spending on this and flown our family to Tahiti or something fun. But…we talked about it and sometimes I think i jsut get caught up in the ease of a DW now, so close to my own wedding.

    But I try not to think about it. Almost everyone at the wedding is my FI’s family. I invited 10 friends, their dates, and i have 5 family members coming. That’s it. So, part of me wishes I had gone with the more intimate wedding, but part of me is glad I’m still getting to "live the dream" i guess. I never originally wanted a destination wedding….i always wanted the "traditional" wedding. Plus, half my friends are still in college. None of them could come anyways, so….

    I’d like to do a vow renewal some place like Hawaii, though, for maybe our 10 year so our parents aren’t too old to travel and join us. Just my parents, a close friend, our kids, his mom, his sister and her family….the people closest to us. (i didn’t mention his dad on purpose by the way) 25 years is ideal, but who knows how they will be at that point. My parents are celebrating their 25th in August and my grandparents have either passed away or are in nursing homes requiring more care. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We are having a big traditional wedding and sometimes I wish could wed simply and privately.  I would love a simple beach destination wedding with famiy and friends. 

    I am really overwhelmed at work and with buying a house and have been ignoring my wedding plans (minus Weddingbee of course) for the past month!

    But, I know that in the end the big traditional wedding is the right choice for us and that I would probably regret not having one.

    Post # 8
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    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    It sounds like you are just getting overwhelmed by everything. It’s starting to be crunch time! I genuinely hope that it will have all been worth it for you. I felt this way too as my wedding drew closer, and in retrospect I’m glad I had a traditional wedding. It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

    Post # 10
    Member
    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    Yes!! I wish we had eloped somewhere warm and tropical without all of the stress of planning a traditional wedding. We are 5 weeks until the big day and I have been overwhelmed with the little details that just wouldn’t matter if we eloped. I am having a 50 person guest list and naively thought that a small wedding meant less stress and planning. It turns out that if your guest list is 10 or 100, the planning is the exact same. I’m sure I will look back on the day though and be glad that my family was able to share it with us.

    Post # 11
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I always say I want to have another wedding so we can have both kinds!  We did the big traditional one, but seriously wish we could have another to do the destination thing, especially after seeing Mrs. SB’s recaps!

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