(Closed) Traditional…hm…ok?

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: Did your groom's family pay for the honeymoon?
    Yes, completely : (10 votes)
    8 %
    No, not at all : (103 votes)
    79 %
    Yes, they helped : (12 votes)
    9 %
    Other (see below) : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I know it’s traditional for the groom’s family to pay for the rehearsal dinner, but not sure about the honeymoon. Sorry!

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My FI’s parents aren’t going to help out at all with the honeymoon.  They aren’t in a financial situation to be helping out much anyway.  I never thought to ask either of our families about paying for the honeymoon, and always assumed that would be 100% on us.  That could work out different for each family though!

    The only things I know the groom’s family “traditionally” pays for are the rehearsal dinner, officiant, and license/paperwork.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Uh…no. It’s traditional for the couple to pay for their honeymoon and the rings, for sure, plus some other stuff. Groom’s parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, and a few other things. Bride’s parents pay for practically everything else. (Is dumb, the way it’s split up.)

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t think it’s traditional, but R’s parents are letting us use their Disney Vacation Club points for part of our honeymoon, which we really appreciate!

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    its traditional in my family to have the groom’s family pay for the honeymoon and RD… unfortunately its not tradition for the FH’s family (although they are just fine with the whole bride’s family pay for wedding part of tradition) – i think its a southern thing. the brides family hosts the wedding, then the groom’s family pays for their first official vacation.

    either way, you cant “tell” someone what is tradition or not soooooo me and FH are paying for it. lol

     

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    FI’s parents are giving us their time share but we’ll pay the other honeymoon costs ourselves (flights, rental car, food etc).

    Not sure if the reason is “tradition” or if they just wanted to (the time share is something they’ve already paid for, but if they didn’t give it to us, they could use it themselves).

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    as of right now, i don’t think FIs parents are paying for the honeymoon at all. they might, however , pay for some elements at the wedding (maybe!)

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    While I think you’re right, that traditionally the groom or groom’s family did pay for the honeymoon, I think that isn’t really followed anymore…My parents actually gave us our wedding present early, which was money for the honeymoon, so I guess we reversed that tradition completely!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would advise talking to each of the families directly, and not relying at all on what is considered “traditional.”  It will help prevent you from feeling frustrated if each of the families don’t do what is “traditional.”  

    My parents are paying for about 1/3 of the wedding, but they also gave us an early wedding gift – money for the honeymoon!  My FI and I are paying for the other 2/3rds of the wedding (minus the things listed below).  My FI’s grandparents are paying for part of the cake.  My FI’s aunt and uncle are paying for all the flowers.  My FI’s family is handling the rehearsal dinner – really low key at a relative’s house.  Two of my aunts are helping to make food for the RD.

    It’s what worked for each of the families – my family would rather just give us money and let us do what we want with it.  His family wants to help with specific “things.”

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee

    ^^^ good advice

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    They may be offended if you approach them like “hey this is traditional, will you pay for it?”

    However, my dad’s parents paid for mom and dad to go to hawaii for 3 weeks back when they got married, so I guess they were being traditional.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My family considers it traditonal that the bride’s family pays for the wedding (as much as they can) and the groom’s family pays for the rehearsal dinner.  That being said, we are paying for most of everything ourselves… The precedent was just set for my sister’s wedding, but that was several years ago and things have changed.

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