Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Mr. Peng and I did a Thai portion of our ceremony to honor my heritage and I hope that our children participate in this as well at their weddings. I am keeping my dress and jewelry from this portion in hopes that if I have a daughter, one day she’ll maybe think about doing it too (since it was traditional garb, fashions won’t really change in 20-30 years, so I think we’re ok… plus that dang dress was expensive!). I don’t know if I should get my hopes up… I’d hate to be forced to do something at my wedding because my parents told me to, but at the same time, I’d certainly like to honor my parents hopes and wishes for our wedding (which is why we did the Thai ceremony in the first place, although I did it more than willingly, but even if I didn’t really want to do it, would probably have done it anyway out of respect to my parents).
What about you? Are you hoping to start any traditions at your wedding? Are you being "forced" to continue family traditions of your own? If you’re not too pleased to be participating in family traditions, how are you handling these situations with your parents?
Post # 3
This is a very interesting post. I think the tradition that we "broke" is the same one we would like to see continued. Instead of "until death do we part" we said "for all eternity". We would like to see "for all eternity" in our children’s weddings.
This decision was made based on a combination on how we were raised, though we are both agnostic now, I was raised LDS and he was raised in a mixed Christian and Hindu household. We agreed that though we are not religious, we both have a strong belief in some form of eterntiy — where life does not end at death, and therefore neither does marriage. So, we changed our vows to include this.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn
I’m hoping to use parts of my mom’s dress and veil in my own veil. I think it would be a fun tradition if my daughter did the same.
Post # 5
We aren’t going to toss the bouquet or garter, and we’re trying to think of a cute new custom to put in their place!
Post # 6
We are starting a new "unity ceremony" tradition in our family. My sister started it….I’ll be using it this spring…and my other sister will be using it later this year. (Talk about wedding overload for the family!)
We’re doing a flower press, to signify our new unity. My sister came up with it, it’s such a cute idea! And something you’ll frame and keep forever. =)
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2008 - Hotel on the westside of Los Angeles
My mom bought me a handkerchief that had our wedding date embroidered on it with my name and Mr. J’s name. I wore it pinned it to the inside of my lengha on our wedding day. I hope to embroider it with my daughter’s name and wedding date– hopefully she’ll want to wear it inside her dress/lengha too!
Post # 8
Although we both went to church growing up, neither one of us has attended as adults. That of course means that neither of us has a realtionship Since we don’t have a relationship with a minister, justice of the peace, what have you…we’d like to have my brother perform the ceremony. And I keep thinking…wouldn’t it be great if he performed the ceremony for our kids 25 years from now?