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My fiance and I need some hugs. One of his closest friends (who was a groomsman) died last night. We are getting married in 2.5 weeks.
Can't stop crying.
Oh Miss Cola...I am so sorry for your loss. That is totally heartbreaking. I am sending lots of hugs and warm thoughts to you, your FI and his friend's family. So sad. Wish there was something else to say... *hugs*
I am so so sorry for your loss. This is truly awful news :( I don't know if words would be any comfort so I am just sending ((((hugs))))
wow that his awful!!! I am so sorry.
Praying that God will comfort you guys during this time!
can I ask what happend?
oh no! that is horrible! Thinking of you & your fiance! So sorry!
I'm so sorry this happened to you, what a terrible thing.
BTW, it is VERY rude to ask somebody what happened when they are going through this. Truly insensitive. I wanted to hit people who asked me this when my brother died....grr
I am sorry that you consider it rude to ask what happend but I find that it shows that people care rather than an "I am sorry",..like everyone says..
My grandfather was killed in a car accident in July and everyone greives differently...I felt that people cared when they asked.
The point was to make Miss Cola feel like she could talk about it if she needed to. It is up to her if she wants to explain.
I am sorry to have upset anyone with my comment.
Okay, I see, I just felt like it was extra nosy of people....like it mattered "how" he died.
I think this can be the case with younger people, though. Everyone was curious how a 19 year old boy had suddenly died, which I assumed was the case with a younger groomsmen, so I just related personally.
Just a different perspective I guess.
It is ok.. like I said everyone grieves differently.. and I understand with you brother that it could come accross that way. btw.. I am very sorry for the loss of your brother.. no matter how long ago.. it still hurts.
*hugs
I agree that different people grieve differently. I appreciated when people asked questions because I DID want to talk about it but I didn't want to unload on someone who didn't actually want to know, I didn't want to make people uncomfortable with my grief. But I can totally see how it would bother some people if they are not the type that is helped by talking things through.
Thank you, same to all of you
I guess it really depends *who* it comes from. Obviously here we are all very caring. I just figure that if someone wants you to know, they'll be up front about it. Not always the case I guess. I find that sometimes you get that weird vibe from strangers who just want to know, not b/c they care, but because they're curious and judgemental. Like "was it an OD? was it drinking? etc" b/c I got those weird eyeball looks, whereas if i'd said "oh he had brain cancer" there would be sympathy...versus not. I got a lot of that so I think I'm jaded. Whereas when my grandparents died, everyone was very warm and friendly and sympathetic. Funny how people are, eh? Anyways, there's my background so you all don't think i'm a cold hearted meanie
@Miss Cola, I found that counseling was incredibly helpful and if your FI was super close to his friend, it might help him sort out some issues if there are any. I know most men aren't open to this option, but it can truly be helpful.
May I gently remind everyone that this person is grieving? Perhaps this thread would best be left to leave condolences during such a sensitive time.
I understand where you are coming from and it is really hard to tell someone's intentions over a "board" like this.
*hugs* We all love you, Cola. So, so sorry and keeping you in thoughts in prayers!
I am so so sorry for your loss. My husband lost a friend sveral years ago and it still haunts him to this day. He couldnt even bring himself to put his name in our program in the In Loving Memory section. I did find, however, that he feels better when he talks about it (this is a bit down the road mind you - I wouldnt approach this quite yet.) Anything - happy memories, funny ones, how he passed away, what differences he made, his family, etc. Anything. if I just sit and listen, he ends with a small smile thats almost loving. I know how much of an amotional time this is for you as well. Nobody wants to see their FI in this much pain, and hcances are you were close with him as well. We are all here for you in this very difficult time. xoxox
((HUGS)) If you ever need to talk vent or anything else we are all here....
oh my goodness @Miss Cola... I'm so sorry to hear this sad news! Sending you lots of *hugs* and wishes that you find peace and comfort soon.
Miss Cola - thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and with the groomsman and his family and as you help your FI to cope and grieve.
i'm so sorry for your loss! lots of prayers being sent your way!
I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you, your fiance, friends and family at this really difficult time.
::big hugs and prayer going your way:: I am so sorry for your loss, and I truly hope that you can both honor him and still find joy in your wedding day.
So sorry. I lost a cousin last year and I know nothing can be said that will take the pain away. I will pray that God gives you strength. And just know that he will probably want to you to enjoy and celebrate your wedding day with positive happy thoughts of him.
In time, it will get easier.....
I'm so sorry to hear of you and your fiance's loss...hugs and thoughts and love sent your way...
*many hugs* I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I don't have anything else to say that the other bees haven't already said but we're all here thinking of you.
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