Post # 1
My mom really wants me to have a dress with a train. Me….not so much lol. I wanted to get feedback from all of you. Are you having a train or is your dress trainless? Every dress I like is a dress my mom considers to be a prom dress (due to the lack of a train). She has also told me that my dress cannot be ivory. It has to be white lol. Go figure I like ivory :-P. Please help me with this and give me some advice! Thank you so much bees :-).
Post # 3
Didn’t think a train was going to be for me, but it’s so pretty- and makes you really feel like you’re in a wedding dress, and the bustling is really easy and can actually look nice (seriously when you’re in the shop ask the lady to show you how it looks bustled – both styles).
And probably my favorite moment from this whole process? Was my Dad asking the woman in the third shop to also show us the “french bustle”. Those are things you don’t forget.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
If you mom is going to remind you of this forever and ever, I say get a dress you love that happens to have a train, and just have it bustled for most of the time. And on the ivory note, just have the sales people bring out ivory dresses and not white ones. Mine was ivory and my mom swore it was white. The sample was ivory, and she had no idea. Good luck.
Post # 5
Try the dresses on with veils. I doubt anything can look prom-like with a veil!
Post # 6
I’ve been to weddings where the dress has a train, but it’s bustled the entire time, so it’s not cumbersome. That way it does not have that “prom dress” look, and gives it more of a formal feel.
Post # 7
I am wearing a dress that has a bit of a train and is ivory =) but i’d say go with your gut! I wasn’t a huge fan of a train as first because I felt like a lot of dresses I saw with a train looked ‘old’ . I wanted a modern dress, clean lines, nothing frilly puffy and all that stuff. But i tried on dresses with an open mind and when i tried on ‘the one’ it was simple, clean and modern, exactly what I wanted and it just happen to have a train.
Don’t let your mom pressure you to pick something she thinks is what you should wear. be open minded but ultimately go with your gut.
As far as the ivory is concerned my mom did not like that I tried on ivory dress. She too felt my dress should be white white but thankfully she didn’t pressure me or anything to go with white. Since I am pretty tan (i’m Peruvian) bright white just contrasts too much with my skin color. I explained to my mom the soft ivory color of my dress looks much better on my skin tone and she was fine.
I’m tell you go with your gut =)
Post # 8
I guess I will have to consider trying on dresses with a train then! This is the dress that I love, but she hates it lol.
Post # 9
That’s a beautiful dress! Why doesn’t your mom like it?
There are so many shades of “ivory” these days, and much softer whites than a stark bridal white. I’m sure you’ll be able to find a color that flatters your skintone and is also mom-approved. 🙂 Just ask the sales consultant to show you different swatches.
Post # 10
@tarheelgrad98: She hates the dress because 1) it does not have a train and 2) it is too plain to be a wedding dress (according to her lol). I think its simple and elegant at the time. Ultimately it is my decision, but she has been giving me hints of what she deems to be dress worthy lol.
I will definitely have to ask for color swatches. I think the extreme white of a really white dress would be too much for me! I like the color softness in ivory. I am sure if I say that I really really want it she would step down a little bit with the white insistance. We haven’t even been in a bridal store yet. This is just what she is saying from the pictures I show her online. Attached is the dress she is absolutely in love with!
Post # 11
I have a train on my dress, and I think it’s lovely. But that’s not to say all dresses must have trains. Usually, dresses without trains are so, so glamorous!
Post # 12
@Gemstone: I agree! Both types of dresses can be glamorous. I don’t think a lack of train makes a dress less beautiful. I do have so much to think about lol….
Thanks for the input everyone :-). It is sincerely appreciated!
Post # 13
I saw a similar situation on Say Yes to the Dress. I think what they ended up doing is getting a dress with a short train, but getting a very long cathedral length veil.
Post # 14
My dress has a train, and if it weren’t so expensive, I would have just chopped it off. I am not a fan of dragging something around behind me. Also, my dress is ivory because white white does not look good with my skin tone. To each there own, but if you want ivory you should get it. 🙂
Post # 15
I’ve got a semi-cathedral train on mine, but honestly, it just looks gorgeous!
Post # 16
Awww, it looks like your mom has “princess” as her vision for you! You know she means well 🙂
I agree with PPs that bustled trains are very easy to do and would be a compromise. But you need to go with what makes you comfortable. Definately put on a veil and ask her if you still look like prom!
In regards to “ivory”…has your mom seen how many shades of “white” wedding dresses come in? She might have a perception that ivory is much darker than white-white. I’m sure once she sees some different shades, she might be able to make a compromise with you.