Post # 1
I’m getting married barefoot on the beach in a small, casual ceremony in Cabo San Lucas on 10-10-10. My dress is below, and it will arrive very soon for my first fitting. I need to make a decision ASAP on what to do with the train.
I love the train, but I hate bustles – I am 5’1″ and they just make me look shorter and my arse look bigger. Plus, I feel it will ruin the ethereal, beachy look of the dress. I had initially planned to chop it off, and make a small “illusion” train, with just the sheer top fabric a bit longer. THEN, some family and friends weighed in and said, “don’t you dare cut that train!”
I wouldn’t mind the train dragging on the sand, but what are my non-bustle options for our post-ceremony cruise, dinner, and partying around town in Cabo? If you voted “not to chop,” please offer alternate suggestions.
Any advice is greatly appreciated!
Example of an “illusion train” (this is not my dress)
Post # 3
How about those wrist loops that one of the other bees was mentioning? Of course, you’d have to test out how heavy your train is to see if that works. If not, I vote illusion train.
Post # 4
I chopped off my train entirely and love it.
Like you I am short and I HATE bustles and am getting married outside in the mountains (i could just see all of the pine needles and crap my train would pick up). I love the look and feel of my dress now so I say CHOP CHOP!
Post # 5
to me it doesnt look like a huge long heavy train… honestly i would leave it the way it is….if it is really that long for u then maybe i would just cut it a little so when u have to bustle it up it doesnt give u a huge behind, but stil it seems to be organza or satin, so i doubt it will be that heavy…definitely you need to keep a little of train though
Post # 6
It looks pretty light – go with a loop or just picking it up. That’s what I’m doing with mine (which has a train long enough to require a 144″ veil!) – people will just have to watch where they’re stepping! I figure that people should be paying attention to the bride, and so not tread on her dress (I’m having a ceilidh, so hoping people do manage to stay out of my way!)
It looks so pretty, as long as you don’t mind it following you all night, I’d keep it and not worry about bustling it.
Post # 7
My dress had a similar floaty chiffon skirt. Its train was very short – similar to the one above but not an illusion (i.e. the satin under the chiffon formed the train as well).
While it was quite easy to move and dance in, I did have a small underbustle added. This didn’t remove the train entirely; rather it tucked the under layers up underneath so it was much shorter. That meant that the top layers shortened slightly as they were attached to the under layer, but it didn’t look bustled.
It wasn’t a perfect solution but it did make it easier – I could dance backwards!
I have no idea how you’d explain this to a seamstress but if you shorten your train then you do have bustle options that don’t look like a bustle and won’t remove its floatiness.
I vote shorten it… but I’ve never been a fan of long trains anyway. It’s completely a matter of opinion!
Post # 8
WhiteRoseRed – people will tread on your train, that’s what every bride says. It’s just too hard for everyone to remember when you’re in a crowded room. My Bridesmaid or Best Man stepped on my train while I was signing the register and ripped a big hole in it! But I didn’t care – partly because the train’s so fluffy you couldn’t see it, and partly because I was on such a high from being at my wedding that nothing could faze me.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Just chop it off. That’s what I’m doing!
Post # 10
I hated the idea of a bustle but I’d take it to a seamstress and play with the various styles before you chop it. There might be a bustle that doesn’t look so bad on that dress at all. I ended up getting a dress without a train (which I wanted desperately) but before my other dress choice had a train and the seamstress was showing me bustle styles that were low and not near the arse because I hear ya sister I’m a bit taller than you but I’ve got a bum for sure and I don’t need any help showing it off. Some of the stuff she showed me was really low and really elegant and it helped take the attention away from that so it was kinda nice. I was pretty surprised.
Post # 11
I vote for the illusion train. I think it looks very beautiful and “beachy”. The full train would totally get to be a hassle.
Post # 12
I second @Cricket1524, talk to the seamstress about options. My bustle will be low, around the knee area (in the back of course) & no where near my ample derriere. But if you don’t like the options, cutting is always a good option.
Post # 13
I think that even with the illusion train you are going to need to have it bustled up a bit during the reception/partying because that is long enough for someone to step on and rip a hole in.
Post # 14
That dress is so beautiful! Maybe just make the train a little shorter? Or add a loop so you can pick it up and put the loop around your wrist so it doesn’t drag at your reception?
Post # 15
Thanks for all of the advice, ladies! Your comments are really helpful. I’ll be anxious to see what the seamstress says.
@snuggly … I think the length of your train is perfect for your dress! I hate to cut the whole thing off, since a train can make you feel more like a bride. Sigh, what to do….
Post # 16
I think you can make an underbustle that may be almost entirely invisible… It’ll end up looking sort of like a bubble hem in the back.
I’m not an expert on this, but it seems like it could be done with no extra pouf added to your life!