Post # 1
Okay, so Brother One has one girl, and Brother Two has 2 boys and a girl. I want my ringbearer and flower girl to be Brother Two’s older boy and girl. But I’m worried that my Brother One will feel like I left his little girl out, and my Brother Two may feel the same about his other boy. (Does ANY of that make sense???) 😀
Well, would it be weird to have the two “left-out” kids be trainbearers?? I on purpose picked Brother Two’s kids because they’re the oldest, and I figured they would be a little more well-behaved. I’m worried that the other two, being younger, may not understand what’s going on, and may start crying, and not carry the train, and make a scene. Also, I don’t really wanna have 4 little kids at the altar, doing who knows what.
Am I overreacting? Does anyone know of anything else I could have the other 2 kids do, if I decide not to let them do that? THANK YOU!! 🙂
Post # 3
I think that how old they are does matter. How old are all the kids?
I would say that if the younger ones are under four, I feel like people would understand if they weren’t in the actual ceremony. Like you said, they me get distracted or cry, especially with everyone watching.
Personally I like the idea of kids holding the train is really adorable, but I was be hesitant with young kids also.
A friend of mine had some young kids hand out programs at her ceremony. It was really adorable and they had supervision from their parents which helped it go well. Something like that might be a way to involve the other kids without having to worry how they will act.
Also I have seen many weddings were the kids, weather ring bearer or flower girl or other once walking up front they sit in the first or second row and don’t have to stand up the whole time nice and still in front of everyone.
Post # 4
I don’t know how old the kods are, but – by instinct – I would choose the older ones.
Post # 5
well i was the train holder at my sister wedding when i was four… 5 minutes before the ceromony i got in a fight with my Bro in law’s nephew my partner. we made down the aisle… i was bored and ended up stepping on her dress. if you use the younger ones have them sit with their parents after they walk down the aisle. if they are going to cry odds are they will do it right before so have someone on standby to pass of to parents just in case but you can get a sense of how they are during rehersal. talk to the parents to see if its a good idea. just say hey we were thinking of having sue do this do you think its a good idea. that way they have an out and don’t feel like they are obligated to have there kids in the wedding.