Post # 1
So, I am a lawyer and have worked for the last four and a half years in demanding and time-consuming jobs. However, my husband and I have decided that I will be a stay-at-home-mom when our baby comes (in only 10 weeks! eek!). I have been thinking a lot about what a big transition this will be for me — not only to motherhood, but to not working outside the home. I would love to hear from anyone else who has made this transition… A few questions (though you don’t need to respond to all of these!):
1. Was the transition difficult? Did you struggle with feelings of isolation of self worth?
2. Did you adopt a fairly rigid routine to keep you on track? (I think this may be good for me — I need structure!)
3. Do you have any general advice? Or do you have any books you recommend?
Post # 3
Check out Mandy aka Mrs. Dumpling’s personal blog at http://www.omgmom.blogspot.com She transitioned out of a job to be a Stay-At-Home Mom and is quite informative while still being funny/quirky.
Post # 4
I’m in the process of transitioning; I won’t be at home until August, though. I think that having a strict schedule will help me, too. I am not usually self-motivated, but I found when I was on maternity leave that I spent a lot of time cleaning/doing things around the house, and I think it’d be good to set a time limit for doing those tasks.
Also, I think it can really help to get out of the house and meet other stay at home parents early on. I met a bunch of moms with babies Addie’s age at a weekly infant program at the library; now we (me or the nanny depending on the day) have weekly play dates and outings set up. We (also me or the nanny) enrolled in a weekly “Mommy and Me” yoga class, which has introduced us to some neat new parents with kids of all ages. I’ve never had a lot of “girlfriend” type friendships before, but having other moms and dads to talk to, meet up with, etc… was helpful in combatting the lonelieness and loss of adult time of staying at home full time.
I’m interested to hear what other people, who’ve already made the transition, have to say!
Post # 5
i would definitely recommend sticking to a schedule. get out of the house when you can, but realize that will be difficult until the baby is a little older and can do things like playdates and mommy and me. if you don’t know any other sahms, definitely try to make new mommy friends!
make an effort to actually talk to an adult every day…this is the #1 complaint from my sahm friend. she’ll suddenly realize she hasn’t talked to an adult (other than her husband) in days.
good luck! it will be difficult at first and there’s a big learning curve, but it will get easier!