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Trash the Dress - Anyone Done It?

posted 1 year ago in Dress
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  • poll: Have you/ will you do a trash the dress session?
    Of course! : (13 votes)
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    So my photographer has offer to do a trash the dress session with my husband and I for free.  Has anyone done a TTD session?  Good experience?  Bad experience?  Suggestions?  The photographer said the purpose of the pictures wouldn't be to "trash" the dress so much as take dress pictures in "non-traditional, unexpected" environments.  

    I'm still not 100% sure I want to do it because the dress is silk and I am worried that stains won't come out too easily.  I thought about using the dress to making baby dedications outfits when we have kids one day.  Thoughts?

     
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    spinach    August 28, 2010  

    We are planning to do this! And it was funny to see my fiance more worried about his suit getting ruined than my dress. I guess it's fair, since his is more likely to be ever used again.

    You can work with your photographer to choose locations where the damage to the dress can be controlled. We are planning some historical ruins and a beach, I am sure you could find much cleaner locations such as your favorite cinema/restaurant/diner or the farmers' market.

     
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    Miss Mitzie    December 3, 2011   Dublin OH

    Don't do it if your not 100% sure. I will probably do trash the dress photos, but I don't have plans to make anything out of my dress. Save it for your (future) babies if that is what makes you happy

     
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    TheFutureMcBride    August 2010   Virginia

    I'm looking for a cheap wedding dress to trash and won't use my actual dress. Have you thought about something like that?

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    I'm actually considering it, but I would do it well after the wedding.

    Thing is, my dress only cost me $180 to start with (yay China replica! I love my dress!!!), and if I don't trash it, I plan to donate it/give it away. If it cleans well after a TTD, I would probably donate it anyway!

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    I bought a seperate dress for this.  $99 is alot easier to throw away then a $1000 dress.

     
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    TingTing    September 12, 2010   Los Angeles

    i would if i have the budget to hire a photographer for it. i'd also buy an inexpensive dress for it rather than wearing my actual wedding dress.

     
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    MaggieGirl    October 16, 2010  

    You either trash it or you don't.  Don't try to have a dress cleaned after trashing it.  It's not worth it.

     
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    jingle96    May 28, 2010   DW in ARUBA/livin' in VA

    We did this is Aruba and it was so much fun!  But I didn't do my actually dress, I did a cheap white dress.  But if he's offering it for free you should take him up on it and maybe get a cheaper white dress!

    here's a pic of us (my fav pic)!  Here's the link to see more from our shoot!  We actually got in the water at the end! 

    Trash the Dress - Anyone Done It? :  wedding trash the dress Aruba Beach Wedding Photographer Photography Destination Filipino Bride Groom Waves Natural Bridge North Island

    Photo taken by Scott Hayne Photography

     
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    soon2beMrsGP    October 13, 2010   TX

    I'm seriously considering it..I love seeing pics from brides who have done a TTD session.  I can't decide if I want to do it in my actual wedding dress or buy a cheap dress.  One of the photogs I"m considering has underwater equipment and wants to do one on the beach and in a cenote but I haven't decided on that yet either..

    What kind of makeup should you wear to TTD?

     
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    EmEv    August 21, 2010  

    This idea seems so wasteful to me.  If you don't want to keep your wedding dress you could sell it after the wedding or donate it to a charity.  Ruining it just to get some "interesting" pictures is ridiculous to me.  If you do decide to do this, then definitely buy a cheap white dress.

     

     
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    redbullfanatic    July 7, 2010   Long Beach, CA

    I think the term "TRASH" the dress gets taken so out of context.  We did a TTD session the day after in Maui and sure I was in the sand, dove into the ocean, climbed rocks etc but it's certainly not trashed.  We actually rinsed the dress out in the ocean, twisted it to get the water out, shoved it into a back pack and took it back to our condo and soaked it in the tub to get the salt water out.  The lace is fine, the silk is fine, the only thing that is wrong with my dress is the hem of the crinoline stuff fell out, but I think that actually fell out prior to trashing it.  In order to really trash it I think you need to cut it up or set it on fire or something.  I did see a few ladies on the beach that gasped in horror but to us we friggin' loved doing it.  The pictures turned so amazing, and the few hours we were taking the pictures were really special. 

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    I Love shooting after wedding shoots. It only goes as far as YOU let it. Some people want to get wet, some don't.

    My favorite thing, is mainly that you don't care as much about your dress afterwards. You can lean on brick without fear, you can be in a dirt ally without fear, etc. You don't have to wallow in mud. And you DONT have to ruin your dress.

    Personally, I don't like the bride floating in water or in mud or being coated in paint juxtaposition. Many times, it looks cheesy and ick and not couture. It sounds like, "oh this will be shocking" but it's just many times so poorly executed that it's just... eh. I would much rather create a striking image of you in a place where you can be carefree and BE YOURSELF in your dress.. and just not worry about if along the way it gets a tad of dirt on it.

    I really want to do one in the Vegas Desert myself :-)

     
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    missmouse29    July 2011   NWOntario, Canada

    I am doing it. Oh baby oh baby. I am going to buy a dress from a consignment store (Salvation Army/ Value Village etc), I don't really care if it is super flattering, or isn't my "ideal" dress, because I am going to trash it. My SO is also going to pick up a "used" suit from a similar store, and we are going to be absolutely ridiculous. I would rather go this way rather than try and have the dress cleaned afterward, since I have known several brides who couldn't get grass stains out of their trains with professional cleaning.

     

    @soon2beMrsGP:

    It depends on how extreme your TTD session is going to be. You could go with waterproof if you are going heavy on the water/underwater theme.

    If you are going for a more classic or subdued makeup look for your actual wedding, you could go crazy-overboard with some extreme eye makeup and whatnot (think about "artistic" shots from modeling mags etc). But totally not necessary. Have fun with it!

     
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    Kemi82JP    June 12, 2010  

    I actually love the idea of a trash the dress session, because they look so fun and you can get so creative!  BUT i could never bring myself to do it!  I love my dress, and either want to keep it forever or hem it short and dye it to wear another time.  

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    After 8 months of staring at my dress and wondering what to do with it, I'm definitely doing a TTD session. Unless someone had my EXACT measurements (not likely), I won't be able to sell it. It can't be altered any more. I will probably have it cleaned and donate it after that, or something.

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I don't think I could ever destroy a dress even for photos. It seems so wasteful. I'm trying to sell my wedding dresses, if I can't then I would donate them to charity.

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    Thanks everyone for your opinions!  

    @jingle96 - I love the pics :-)

     

    I definitely have a lot to think about.  It sounds like the best option might be to buy an inexpensive dress.  I like your idea missmouse!  

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    I think some TTD sessions are SO fun and turn out awesome! But I just couldn't bring myself to do it...I got my preserved ;)

     
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    charmedlife357    June 3, 2012   Noblesville, In

    I will probably do it but I will defenetly buy an inexpensive dress to do it in. I just can not imagine doing anything risky in a 1600 dollar dress. Even if I cant ever wear it again, I would rather donate or sell it.

     
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    redbullfanatic    July 7, 2010   Long Beach, CA

    Here is what we did...

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    anne B    August 11, 2012   Lincolnshire ...England

    @starbright333:

    i always call it rock the dress too......

     
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    Lindsay05    August 21, 2010   Canada

    I think it's a great idea. TTD is a great way to get a picture of you in your environment. I have seen people with horses, dog trainers, etc getting some great shots. Actually the one with the horses was a beautiful shot. If I were to do it, I would probably want to be doing it at a campground or something. Or possibly involve my dogs.

     
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    mzsimmons    March 12, 2011   Montego Bay Jamaica

    Trash the Dress - Anyone Done It? :  wedding trash the dress 1225972852 AE5b2 L 1 wedding 1225972852 AE5b2 L 1

     

    I did it but not in my real dress. Trashing the dress, especially on the beach... the dress gets really heavy. Eventhough my dress was short it filled up with sand, and so did my FI's pants lol

     
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    HappilyEverAfter54    June 23, 2012   Central Pennsylvania

    Definitely trashingthe dress (just not my wedding dress) that would be like throwing 2,000 into the ocean =( id rather throw 50. lol I love TTD pics I'd definitely do it if someone was going to do it for free!!!!

     
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    kimberleedawn    July 7, 2012   Toronto

    Im doing a TTD shoot the day after the wedding. Im not jumping into water or anything but we are planning to take the photo shoot out to pasture. We are getting married on my FFIL farm. I would LOVE to get some pictures with the sheep and lambs in a hay field. I know it wont "trash" the dress, but I wouldnt dare be around animals before my reception. 

     
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    fresitachulita    July 28, 2012   Houston

    The point of trash the dress is definetly not to preserve the dress...the dress will get stained and ruined. It may look perfectly fine in a preservation box...but the bottom and back of the dress is usually destroyed. I have seen  some photos from a friend of mine who does photography...she had some lovely ones of a bride laying out in the snow...walking through the mud...wading on a beach...and even some of the bride taking a purple spray can to the back of her dress. It's meant for an editorial type look...if you treasure ur dress, dont' go there.

     

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