Travel or have a baby?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Black_bird:  hhhmmmm thats a hard one since 2015 is still 1.5 yrs away, but your still young so thats not gonna make much difference if you wait til then.

i say travel the germany before having a baby, because as much as you think youll go back after you have kids you may not as money will be tighter, kids in school etc, it just doesnt happen as easily.

we’re goin overseas for our big overseas experience next year, travel is one thing we feel like we have to do before having kids otherwise we never will the way we can without children.

but only you know whats right! if its only one place , eg Germany, you could take a toddler there easily as its not like youll be back packing all over Europe…..

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Black_bird:  if it was me, I would either do Germany in 2015 and wait to TTC or, I would try and fit Germany in next year, I wouldn’t give up on that dream, it might lead up resentment.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It would be a no-brainer for me, I’d go for the baby – but that’s just me!  You’d have to decide how important it is for you to do this before kids come along.  I mean, Germany will always be there – it’s not like you’ll never be able to go if you don’t go now.  You could also start trying, since as you said you never know how long it will take to get pregnant, and keep saving up for your trip in case a pregnancy doesn’t happen by then.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Black_bird:  I’ve known many couples who’ve made it a priority to travel, even with infants and small kids in tow. (Certainly, you wouldn’t want to travel with an infant who can’t be fully immunized yet!) I think if you are committed to scheduling, planning, and saving then kids and international travel are quite compatible. My husband and I have discussed how we wouldn’t hesitate to pull our future kids out of school for extended periods to travel and live in other countries. This is a great blog on the topic: http://www.thelittletravelers.typepad.com/

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

TRAVEL.

My DH and I are die hard travel addicts as well. Is there anywhere more exotic than Germany on your list, though? It’s easy enough to bring a kid there (rent a vacation apartment instead of hotel, but Germany is super easy to get around with a kid).

I’m the same age as you, and we are headed to Antarctica/Argentina for my 30th b-day in January. We want to do a big safari trip before a baby, too, probably in 1-2 years.

Travel is one of the most life altering and amazing things a person can do (and not many Americans do it, so take what a lot of bees say with a grain of salt. Most people here have not traveled much outside of all-inclusives/resorts/cruises etc). You CAN do it with a kid (i’ve met many people on my around the world sojourns with their kids!), but it is a different type of trip. If you want a freer trip, go first, have kids later. You have the rest of your life to be a mom.

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What’s more important to you right now? I think you’ve gotta figure that out first.

I’m a travel nut – I’ve been lucky enough to venture to so many different countries – FI enjoys it, but not as much as I do. He would choose to TTC over Germany. At this stage in my life, I would choose Germany.

As a side note, I’ve never been to Berlin – but I did go to Munich, and it was amazing!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@Black_bird:  My fiance and I just had this discussion last week!  For us, the answer was travel more first, and then start trying for a baby. We want to stop and smell the roses and really enjoy each stage of life.

When we first got engaged last December, my fiance and I were so thrilled over the prospect of starting a life together that we thought we’d start TTC shortly on or after our honeymoon. 8 months later, we are still thrilled to be starting our lives together, but we’ve also found that we LOVE where we are at right now. Being engaged has been a blessing and we love this stage of our relationship and life together.  In fact, our life is so wonderful that it’s hard to imagine changing it.  Yes, a child will be a new and wonderful blessing in and of itself, but there’s no need to rush into that stage and skip enjoing the newlywed stage.  It seems that each stage of life offers unique blessing and moments, and we don’t want to miss any of them.

Just last week, we decided that we will go to Greece and Italy for our one year wedding anniversary, and possibly start TTC after that.  We want to enjoy the newlywed stage, and then go on to enjoy the baby stage.  We don’t want to miss out on enjoying the moment because we rush through to the next stage.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Black_bird:  If you want to enjoy the nightlife, probably not a good idea to travel pregnant as you couldn’t drink/might be really tired/sick/etc. I think you should just wait to try until after the trip and enjoy yourselves 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Black_bird:  Heck, maybe you could try on your trip 🙂 Bring home a nice little souvenir of your last big trip before expanding your family.  No guarantee that the timing would be right, but it’s a romantic thought.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d choose to travel and have the baby after but that’s just my opinion. My DH & I are in LOVE with traveling. It’s hands down our favorite thing to do and we spend quite a bit of money every year traveling. What better way to take the vacation of your dreams and then come home & start family! 🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@Black_bird:  You could always bring the baby to Germany…it would fly for free too since it would be under two.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Black_bird:  Germany isn’t going anywhere. It’ll be there in 2015 and it will be there years from now. That being said, we didn’t let TTC get in the way of our travel plans, in February we booked a trip to cruise the baltic in July & booked a trip to Belize in November. Our first month TTC I ended up KU, so I was pregnant on our trip to the Baltic & will be 22 weeks when we go to Belize this winter. But, I must say, we did go to Berlin & Hamburg (ports of call on our cruise) and they were both simply amazing! If you decided to TTC at the begining of 2015 like you said, as long as you were having a healthy pregnancy traveling shouldn’t be a problem. I didn’t have a ton of stamina on our trip and ended up taking a nap before dinner most evenings but we would go out on 8-12 hour excursions & be pretty exhausted by the time we got back on the ship. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Travel! I’d never want to travel with a child period and in my opinion a fun vacation doesn’t include a child. Buuuut that could just be me and my husband since we don’t plan on having children ever.

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