(Closed) Traveling & Kids

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

From what I’ve seen from all the mommies I know and from my neice, traveling with young kids is usually a complete and utter nightmare. The change of schedule, the long days, change in diet, the lack of structure tends to push kids over the edge.

We are traveling as much as humanly possible before children. I wouldn’t want to drag a 3 year old to the Picasso Museum or expect a baby to sit quiet while I relax in a cafe for a few hours.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@sfp:  Some of my friends have travelled with their kids.  But their expectations of how far and how much they can do in a day are severely altered.  I would suggest getting any “big” travel you want to do before having kids.  You can still travel with them but think slower and closer to home. Its the not the end of your travelling though!  Remember that they grow up!  My aunt is a world traveller now that her kids are grown and she’s retired.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I love to travel and have been to almost 30 countries.  But every time I see a kid in a plane, it seems like a nightmare.  This is especially true for long haul flights.  Also, as I get older, I need/want more down time, and I feel more worn out by adventurous travel than I used to.  If I have kids, I will definitely take a break from exotic vacations for awhile.  I think we’ll be more likely to just rent a house upstate or some such if/when we want to take time off of work.  It’s not worth the hassle, and a three year old won’t appreciate a lot of the benefits of travel.  Also, we will be spending our travel budget on a nanny!

ETA: Once a kid is in elementary school, then “interesting” travel starts to make sense again.  Maybe by age 8 or so.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@sfp:  Agreed!

 

I was thinking too that unfortunately kids don’t understand or appreciate travel when they’re youngeither but not because they’re brats! Just because they haven’t studied about the rich histories of countries and learned about people and religion ya know?

It’s almost like your brain needs to be mature before you appreciate travel. I went to Spain in high school and didn’t give a hoot or really learn anything, but in my 20’s my trips were SO much more interesting, fulfilling and educational.

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I started travelling at age 6.  The only negative is that there is a lot I dont remember.  But becuse it was something I was exposed to early, I was never a “bad traveller”.  I slept moatly or colored or did schoolwork.  One time, I was gone for a whole month with my mother.  I think travel deosnt have to stop with children as long as itineraries change. 

ETA:  American education is terrible with foreign history.  It’s not like in other countries.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@sfp:  I was 12 when I first went to the States too!  Mom and dad waited until I was old enough to remember going.  We actually would go on vacation every year when I was a kid.  Did PEI a few times when I was really young.  My point was that your expectations of travelling with your kids should be different than going with adults – types of activites, when they get tired, etc.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We have traveled extensively with our son- started when he was 4 months old. We traveled all over the place all the time before we had him, and FI and I agreed that this would not change just because we had a baby. Sure there’s more to pack and sometimes the trips aren’t quite as relaxing, but we love having our son with us and wouldn’t change it for the world. We have a place in Spain, so this summer we will take our son there- he’ll be about 20 months. He does awesome on the plane, which is great. If he didn’t like plane rides, that would definitely be tricky as sometimes we’ve had 2 stopovers en route to our final destination.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sfp:  we have a 7 year old son and we have been traveling with him since he was a baby. 

What works for us is doing 1 year travel with child, next year travel without (just us as a couple), then the next year is with child, etc. 

This year we are going on our honeymoon for two weeks and he is staying with grandma while we are away. Next year we are taking him to Dominican with us.We’ve taken him to an all-inclusive resort in Cuba before and he had a blast! He was 3 at the time, yes of course the trip is different if your child is with you, but you just change your expectations and adapt. When he’s with us, we don’t plan on romantic dinners and museum tours, we plan fun stuff that he will enjoy, like nature walks or swimming in the ocean or things like that (depends on the child). 

 

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FortiesFlare:  you give me faith 🙂 this is one of the reasons that I am nervous about having children. My husband and I still want to see the world and don’t want it to stop when we have children. I am fed up of people saying your life ends when you have kids. Your obviously hasn’t – and you get some alone time with your husband. This sounds idea to me 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@tronski:  Don’t loose faith, I promise kids don’t ruin your life. My dog is a bigger hastle (when it comes to traveling) then my son is. 

It doesn’t hurt that I have a wonderful mother who loves her grand baby more then life itself and gladly watches him for us (or steals him from us!) a lot. We go on a few mini-vacations per year, some with our son and some without.. But we always do the one big vacation per year. I live for our vacations, and I cherish all of them – the ones where he comes with us, and the ones where I get alone time with my man. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If I ever have a child, I will definitely take him/her travelling, even as a baby. I love travelling and can’t imagine not to continue my travels if I have a child. I know that a baby won’t remember any holidays, but I don’t see it as a reason to not to travel with a baby, since us parents will remember the holidays and enjoy them. I’m also very much looking forward to showing the world and different cultures to my future child. Travelling with a kid means more hassle, yes, but I still think it’s worthwile. All my friends who have babies have travelled with them and do recommend it.

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